Oh crap - just enjoy yourself and quit worrying about it. My husband is a guy - and a much older guy at that - and he certainly participates in the concert. My 25 year old son who is a huge Bon Jovi fan also participates, whether it be hand raising or singing along - or dancing in the aisles for that matter. At least here in New Jersey it doesn't seem to be a female only thing. Have you ever seen a Springsteen show? There are guys all over the place "raising their hands".

If the music moves you or sucks you in, enjoy it.

Kathleen