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Originally Posted by Becky
People who don’t go to shows and criticize them say that anyone who enjoys a show must be some screaming female who only cares about Jon’s looks. I, for one, have never fit that description. There is no way in hell I would pay for tickets, travel costs (gas, flights, hotel accommodations), endure travel misery, or use my TWO personal days allotted per school year if I wanted to LOOK at Jon. I can look at him for free in my own home by pulling up a video on YouTube.
I don’t pay for or make an effort to do something that I don’t enjoy. If a nonessential something or someone causes me to feel more negativity than positivity, I can cut them out of my life. That comes to TV shows, music, and people.
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SOME people who don’t go to shows and criticize them say that SOME PEOPLE who enjoy a show are PROBABLY
some screaming females who only care about Jon’s looks...
I, among most others here, have never fit
that description. So, if you are going to complain about people who generalize the characteristics of "some" to include an entire group, then maybe a good place to start would be by not doing the same thing yourself.
I don't think that YOU (or others, like Deb or Kathleen, for example) would go to shows just to look at Jon. But if you've read many of the comments from a lot of other fans, I don't think you can seriously deny that that there ARE those who do exactly that - or seem to, based on the way they are totally focused on Jon and how hot he is, almost to the exclusion of anything or anyone else involved. I would go so far as to say, from my own observation, that a good chunk of the band's fans (male or female), or those who post reviews anyway, react that way. From your post about Nick and Lori's comments on Volume, even THEY spent more time talking about how hot Jon is, or how well he's aged, than they did about the new music they were supposed to be promoting. And if I'm not mistaken, one of them is male.
Stereotypes exist for a reason, and like it or not, there are a lot of fans who ARE primarily invested in Jon or in his looks. I can only see one of two reasons why this is such a hot button for you. It seems like you are either concerned that people will think YOU fit into that category (which doesn't seem to be the case for most of the people here), or you resent the hell out of the females who have given Bon Jovi fans a bad name by contributing to the stereotype. Either way I, for one, would appreciate it if you wouldn't take your frustration out on the people who post on this board by labeling them as "sexist" just because they imply that music is not the primary interest of SOME of the female Bon Jovi fans. Not only is it inaccurate, but it also trivializes the real problem with sexism which, imo, goes much deeper than the way someone views the fans of some band.