I'm not afraid to fly but I used to hate it when I was a kid becuase my ears use to pop all the time and it was so sore that I would always dread going on a plane. For whatever reason when I got older it stopped happening and now I quite enjoy flying. So basically when I was a kid I associated great pain to going on a plane but now I associate pleasure to going on a plane becuase I'm always going somewhere I want to visit. Basically I'm focusing on what's good about it and everything a person dose is determined by the desire to gain pleasure or the need to avoid pain, and where your perception of what an event means (in this case flying) comes from, is your pre-concieved beliefs, in this case you believe flying equals possible crash, ie. death.

You're problem (and I hate using that word, challenge is far better) is a very common one. You associate extreme pain (death) to getting on a plane, so obviously you'll be hesitant to get on one and that belief came from a program you saw. What you have to realise and start focusing on is that that program probably showed 0.000000000000000000001% of all flights. Flying is far and away the safest mode of transport, infact statistically you have more chance of being killed by your trousers then you do in a plane crash. Also more people are killed every year by falling coconuts then in plane crashes. It's just so unbelievable rare that a plane goes down.

What I'm trying to do here is destroy that old belief that getting on a plane = good chance of dying. It dosen't, look down at your trousers and realise that you are in more danger of dying taking them off tonight then you will be by getting on a plane.

Then what you wanna do is start thinking about all the great things about getting on a plane. What dose it mean? You're getting to experience something unique, you're doing it because you're going to see your favourite band in concert and you're overcoming this challenge you have in life and as such, you're becoming a stronger and better person for it.

The best thing to do is write down all the things it will cost you, financially, emotionally etc. to holding on to this belief and all the great things you will gain and all the pleasure you will get from overcoming it.

Hope this helps a bit.


Phil