You call it self-righteous.
I consider it calling it like it is.
Face it. The band donates money to charity. They're criticized for giving away money you gave them buy buying their cd or concert ticket and they're criticized for not donating enough money/time to the charity.
They give you a free stream of an encore and you complain.
They put up a poll and you complain.
How 'bout this? how bout the band shows up at your house, sits at your goddmaned kitchen table and performs exactly what songs you deem appropriate at your very command? Would THAT make you happy? No, you'll come to this site and complain that they didn't wash their own dishes and asked for seconds on the gravy.
Face it - if you didn't have something to complain about, you'd have nothing to discuss about the band!