I didn't used to - if a guy was cute, I didn't care what he did for a living and or if he did anything for a living

Now, I'd like it that they pay their own rent and don't smooch off of me. I also need a certain level of humor - don't apply if you can't laugh about yourself. But that is about it.
have you ever stolen a towel at the gym or similar place?
(and what is breed contempt?)