Advice needed.

I'm constatly reminded of that other episode whre Monica dates Chip (?) and she says she's exactly dated Chip from scholl since he hasn't changed a bit Except for the date thing, a meeting with my friend is exactly the same! I wonder what Monica did to get rid of him though :P


I will, but after July, if she calls back - which she will - there'll be a few months in between. But she always gets me mad for days after she phones so I'll be letting you know anyway. That time I'll tell her to leave me alone once and for all!

Sometimes people idealise the past because they are unhappy in their present.

You`ve got to tell her nicely that if she wants to keep contacts with you she has to start living a live withoiuut idealising the past. If she can`t you tell her, sorry, we had great times while we were kids, now need to keep on going. But you really have to be honest , not getting excuses not to go, she has the right to know why you won`t be there.
I gues, how bad it sounds, that `s something for the old times.

If you hate it to tell her you can write her?

I think she's unhappy in the present because she has never tried to be happy. She went there unwillingly and never tried to see how good it all was. Eight years later she's still complaining about the same old things. It's getting old.

I know it's only fair to tell her what's going on, but I really wouldn't like to hurt her. That's why I was hoping she'd take the hint. I mean, you meet people for a certain period of time and then somehow you just let them go little by little until they eventally disappear. It doesn't sound nice, but it happens. Why can't she let go? I think deep down she knows what the problem is but she just turns a blind eye on it and pretends everything's fine. I don't know but no one I know is being sort of stalked by an old friend!

Telling her is going to be hard for me, but also for her. And I know she's going to hate me for it. It's going to be such an awkward situation. I'd write it, but I think it's better to tell her face to face or through the telephone at least.

Maybe I'm just too blunt with people but in all honesty. It's you, you care about, not her.

All you do is say listen if you're going to keep going on about stuff we did over 8 years ago then I don't want to talk to you because I don't want to go on about stuff.

Even at that she's probably a lost cause but you've got to be cruel to be kind.

Think about it, you've tried to reason with her and drop hints which she hasn't taken but as soon as you say, listen it's finished.

you'll feel relieved.

Just be fair...you have to lookinto your own hart and ask yourself....what do you want someone to do when he thinks this way about you?
And then ...you would know you want/needed to be said. Take your guts and say it to her. We`ll be here to comfort you.

Aw, Inge, how sweet!

I know I don't want this to continue so I'll have to gather strength and let it all out. But it'll require an enormous amount of strength too

You will be enabled to fight it well. :P