Any Advice?

Do any of you feel like your friends take you for granted? I don't know if that makes sense, but I really do feel like that sometimes. This "friend" started hanging out with me and my friend a couple months ago, and we had a lot of fun at first. But slowly I'm realizing I'm getting pushed away. They talk about stuff they did all weekend and if I ask about it, they just tell me nevermind, and half the time I don't know what they are talking about when they have conversations. Its different when I have something do say, the subject usually ends up getting changed like it didn't matter at all of what I had to say. Now I'm not one of those people who are big on partying (well just the drinking part) but I don't mind going to them at all. My friends pretty much stopped asking me to go either because I don't drink or another reason that I just don't understand. Its different when I'm with my one friend, but she acts like such a b**** to me when we're all together. I don't know, I guess I was just wondering if any one might have any advice or anything to say in response. And I have tried talking to my first friend about it but she just says "whatever" and blows it off.

I do have other friends I hang around, but its just not that easy to give up on the ones I do mainly hang out with. I hope someone understands me. Thanks

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next girl that ignores you or anything slap her there and then, its well funny for the guys to watch


erm nah id say just let it be, it happends alot at college i think, erm there is about 9 of us most the time together, messing around, laughing, joking, taking the piss out of the rude boys :P and sometimes you can actually tell someone is being left out but do nothing.

sometimes me and one of the others go off and leave others out, sometimes it happends to you, its all one big circle, in a week or so one of the girls would fade out and it will be you and the other one, then this chick is in the same position you are

its how it works i hope LOL

I understand. I've always been one that was taken advantage of by my friends too. My advice sounds simple, but would take effort and determination on your part. Get better friends. Don't put up with people that make you feel bad. Or let them know that you won't put up with it and give them the opportunity to treat you like an equal. If they don't, focus on your other friends.

Becky

That's funny, the exact same thing has been happening recently with some of my friends, two of them in particular. I think it is such a childish thing to be doing. We still get along alright, but I've started to cut things off with them and spend more time with my friends who include me and act like they actually want me there. This may sound harsh, but if your "friends" are treating you that way, they're not the type of friends you want to keep.

girls can be such bitches sometimes. it hurts even more when its your BEST friend. that has happened to me. she went off and hung out with the "vampire group". but we were the kind of friends where we just got back together and didnt acknowledge that the "break up" ever happened.

but we were wierd. the thing i would do is tlk to the person you are closest to in the group. tell them how you feel. but a proper talk. dont let her fob u off-she's not being fair. and if STILL she couldnt care less id tell her to sod off!

I can relate to your situation entirely. When I was about your age, the same thing happened to me with my friends. There were three of us who were all so close, but then the other two started to hang out more without me. I tried talking to them about it, but they acted like I was just overreacting. It was hard, but I did like Becky said. I just found new friends. It's happened to me again since then and actually I can see it starting up again with two of my current friends. You've just got to realize that not everyone is meant to be in your life forever. I know that sounds harsh when you're hurting right now, but unfortunately it's so true. Keep your head up, things will get better!

i guess men are no good giving advise, im the only one here lol

Well said! I think this has happened to nearly everyone at some point. I know it used to happen to me, with more than one or two friends... But you just change and get new friends, some people won't be in your life forever. It's sad sometimes, but that's how it is I'm afraid

Whew! It was nice to let it all out. Thanks for the replys, all of you really helped me in some way or another.

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It has happened to me as well. Girls have a harder time keeping friends than boys do. Start cutting them out of your activites and plans, and start including yourself in with your other friends. They may come around sometime, and notice that they had more fun with you, but by then, you'll be having too much fun to notice!