anyone here have a big earning disparity with their significant other?

Hey, JIM!! Remember me?

Anyway, that is a pretty stupid thing to say. Like what year is he living in? lol. But I'm sure she'll follow her heart and ignore him

lol, my boyfriend earns waaaaaay more than me, and he basicaly keeps me (aswell as my mum) he says he doesn't care 'cause he's all in love with me, and treats me like a Princess. I do feel a bit bad and try to pay my way whenever I can, but I'm really stuck on cash and have to go to him a lot I'm afraid.

too true.

I wouldn't mind a stay-home boyfriend. Provided he takes care of all the annoyances in my life like scheduling car service, hiring a handyman and cleaning lady, making sure the dogs are exercised ..... it's quite the job to keep a home and allow the other person to pursue their career to their hearts content. I'd consider it a luxury to go after my career while knowing that the home is well taken care of and my 'other' life is kept in order.

Piece of mind is worth a fortune.

good point. she runs about the house stupid after her dad because he's a lazy fat shit who won't do a thing for himself and before they moved out recently. neither of her older sisters did anything around the house either.

i got up today and she was downstairs making me sandwiches for uni i was like.... if i havent made any myself or don't have money to buy anything i'll just have to go without, get back to bed ya nutter.

although when she's a high flying brain surgeon i could stay at home and do all of that for a reasonable salary (plus benefits) so she wouldn't have to worry about it

My gf used to earn more than me while I was at uni.

Since then, I graduated, and she still earns more than me. She works in child care and I am an accountant.

I earn significantly less than what I could if I left my job. For the longest part I didn't care if I was under paid, I enjoyed the working team.

Just the last few days have changed and now I can enjoy the prospect of getting at least another 25-30% at a minimum.

I wish more people would think like you do. We would have way less customers at the social welfare departement where I work. We have loads of mothers with children who got divorced and don't have any education and job.


Back to the original topic. I earn double as much as my hubby for years. He was self employed for a couple of years but the business didn't work as it should. Now he works part time because he couldn't find a full time job. It's quite nervewrecking after years esp. since I don't earn that much either.

that's quite an ignorant observation to make especially considering the next paragraph describes how your husband can't find full time work and you can't find a good paying job....

How do people end up thinking the way they do? Your society demonizes working mothers and glorifies and financially supports non-working parents. Go figure why women with children who end up divorced will need social assitance???? Hmmm.... Must be the divorced mothers fault....


Ha! exellent point.

My dad's a school teacher and my mom's a home-maker by choice (and has been for about 25 years). Huge earning disparity there. Aside from occasional squabbles about money (usually over groceries, and how much my brother eats), everything's fine. Being smart with your money, living within your means, and being able to say no to things you want is not only a recipe for a family's financial success, but a recipe for individual success WITHIN a family.

Adrian

Because we have a high social net and you can get social welfare all of your life if you need it. We have generations of familys getting social welfare who are satisfied with what they get from it.

Not true, at least not here in Germany. In fact stay at home mothers aren't very much respected here in the society and women who have a good education don't get children anymore because their career stops then most of the times. Women only get support for the max. of 2 years of the child. Our governement improved the support now for the first years though to make the good educated women getting kids again. Earlier every mother got 300 EUR a month for 3 years, now the mothers get around 70 % of their last net income for one year or 35 % for 2 years.

I know this is much more than in most other countries though.