you are a better person once you don't fall into the trap society puts on you and you do what YOU think is best for YOU.

If you are not already a good person you should certainly NOT have kids. I don't think I was any worse of a person before I gave birth.

Don't pay any attention to statements like that. Only people who didn't have the guts to stand up for their believes and fell into the traps society layed out for them come up with crap like that.

I know too many parents that had children because "it is the thing to do" and shows that "you made it". Now they are neglecting their kids because they miss their independent travels - I find that despiciable.