Arrange Marrage

slavery didn't end 150 years ago at all

I was being generous!

is that any good?

i would rather choose someone for myself to marry rather than be told who to marry, i dont care about the divorce rates, maybe the divorce rate in arranged marriages is low cos they havent heard of divorce or they cant choose to, or they are expected to stay together and fall in love with this stranger cos theyre married to them and have babies. just cos its traditional does not mean its right. im not saying the west is right cos its advanced and modern and all, but there are some horrible traditions in the world. for example circumcision (male and female) it makes me physically sick (and theres also other mutilations they do in some countries, e.g. in australia they traditionally split the end of a mans thing in two so it looks like a kangaroos, and on some island that i cant remember the name of they slit the underside and chop off one ball (i think its always the left for some reason) when a boy gets to about 11) but these things are allowed cos its traditional. i dont mean to be racist cos some of my best friends are foreigners and im friends with a family of indians, but they are modern indians and they dont force their kids into arranged marriages, but you have to admit there are some nasty traditions in some other countries, youre just not allowed to argue with them cos theyre traditional and youre being politically incorrect. sorry if what ive said upsets anyone but im being honest.[/i]

I really think girls are more talented and dedicated then boys. In India in all sort of educational exams always girls come first. But after graduation or some time later they won't continue that line. I always thought thats why India is so lacking behind. Most girls after education want to get settled with marrage which is usualy arrange one. After marrage most of them stay at home taking care of children.
Yes this changing in india very much, but we still mlong way to go.

i hope it will change, but it's gonna take a long time, and of course, i'm sure some people wants to keep the tradition, well, it's more than a tradition ... just let's hope soon, everyone can make is own choice.

So any of you didn't agree with me on that "grow" part, that people could try to devote to someone? You just compare arranged marriages to mutilations because they are also "forced"?

We are quick to judge problems of other cultures (like the mutilations in Arab, some African and some primitive), but we fail to see the problems that our way of life makes. For example, mental illnesses. Aids, other STDs. Fysical diseases (mostly related to fatness, that only we can afford). And believe it or not, all of these are spread because of our way of life.

When you take away everything advertised in tv, you get some picture of "eastern" culture. That's the way "the others" live. And that isn't much different from us after all.

I didn't except that you could have thought going to arranged marriage. Neither did I. But it seems it is too hard for you to see also some positive sides in it.

Because it goes against every Hollywood love story that I have ever watched.

It just doesn't seem very romantic to me. It seems to be marriage for the sake of getting married and reproducing. What about love?

Yeah there is no story on arrange marrage in Hollywood. Make be we should produce one

So Mouse ur married no, so how is ur marrage so far?. And how did u meet ur hubby?.

I am married. You know what is funny, my husband and I met through our moms. They set us up. Thinking about that, I realized it was sort of arranged. LOL They were sick of us not meeting nice people, so they decided to introduce us. Three months later, we were engaged.

We were married in 2001, and have our moms to thank for it.

Wow then urs is a nearly arrange marrage.
Here also first parents let both to know each other, if they like each other then they procced to next step.