Can you express youreself.....???

Are u good at expressing yourself or letting out ur feeling??. Or is it always hard for u??. Or do u actually know urself what exactly u feel about things??

So u usual happy the way u express urself to others?. Like i always wanted to say so much but endup saying very little or nothing... or while expressing.. i tend to forget things or what ever happens... i just can't express the way i want.... i feel fustrated later...

I let my feelings show easily, sometimes despite trying not to, but I'm not good at putting words on them.

And I'm not trying to either, at least not in the instant, I think "wording" a feeling kills it. I'm willing and able to talk about it a few hours/days later though.

Trying to control your feelings generates frustration and isn't good on the long run. Just let them run through you, live them, that's the best way to both have the right feeling at the right time and avoid frustration. If you suck them in they will eventually come out stronger and disproportionate.


Ponrauil

Thats really cool thing u got it there.... No its not easy to express urself the way u want it for many and i'm one of them... may be i do express myself much better on internet then in real life.... where i mostly keep everything inside.... coz i'm not good at arguing..... and when i do i get angry and say something which i not really meant, i even hate myself when i get angry coz of that..... so i try to keep quite or say it just in one line as much as possible.... which is better for me i think.... I never get the words i want to say while expressing or arguing myself.... Anyway communication was never been my thing....

Everyone does. In front of a keyboard you have all the time to find the right word, the right argument, the right tone, etc... You have all the time to seem smart.

That says a lot for some people...


Just stay calm and honest, avoid insults, and you'll get the best out of most of your conversations/arguments. Easier said than done but efficient.


Ponrauil

I'm not good at all at expressing my feelings when talking to someone face to face.
I find it way much easier to write about them.

Although I must admit I am getting much better at expressing myself

It depends on who's at the other end. But with 99% of the people I know, even my closest friends I find it hard to talk about what's *really* going inside my head or how I'm actually feeling. Although I'm getting better at it now and talk about more and more things. I guess I'm opening up after all

I'm much better at keeping "written" conversations.

Yes, I think I am fairly good at expressing my feelings. Most of the time, I will always say what is on my mind and get it accross in a good way. It does actually depending on WHO im talking to. If I am close to the other person, then its not a problem. I wont discuss personal things with those who I dont know too well, or think I cannot trust. All my friendships are based on trust.

Crap!

One HAS to control their feelings and emotions - nobody cares about your (in general) feelings and emotions except for a loved one (maybe). The rest of the population doesn't want to be bothered. Even for the loved ones, it is easier to repress the emotions than to put that sort of a burden onto someone who you have no clue as to how they will respond. Or, more importantly, if they may at any point in time later on will use that knowledge against you.

I keep my shit to myself and am much better off that way. I cannot recount the times that I got close to telling someone how I really felt only to be shut down shortly thereafter... better not to go there. Saves a lot of heartache and drama.

Funny, my temp came in yesterday and asked if I was pregnant (I immediately shot him an evil look because I thought he was suggesting I've gotten fat) because I seemed unusually happy (whew, sigh of relief). I told him that I actually was unusually frustrated with my job and particularly annoyed... I asked him what kind of drugs he was on, but he denied taking any. Sigh. Fact is, you'll never know how I really feel and I like it that way!!

There.