Conversion for Love?

Just because you love someone it doesnt mean you have to believe in what they do. specially cause if the two of them are the same it rarely works out.

I'm not talking about someone forcing it on someone else, otherwise they would not love each other - but check out my bit about the parents ^^

Excellent way to put it Tom. I also am an athiest but I was raised as a catholic. My husband's parents are die hard protestants (of some flavor - I'm never sure which one). Neither my husband nor myself considered this a problem but his parents had a fit. I was one of those evil papists and I was going to ruin their grandchildren etc.... We just ignored both sides of the family (though to be fair my Mom didn't have a problem with it and my Father had just died) and we did what we damn well pleased. My kids are now 28, 24 and 15 and they were all raised as athiests. So I guess my in-laws were correct, I ruined their grandchildren. When I say I raised them as athiests I mean that I never taught them any religion at all - especially that one is better than another. I never ignored the fact that religion exists and is important to some people - just not to me. Both my husband and myself are engineers and are very fact oriented so mysticism of any sort doesn't really speak to us. Both my older sons have grown up with friends that had to attend church of some sort on Sunday or Saturday and if they stayed at their houses they would attend church or synagogue with their friends. They were exposed to lots of different attitudes growing up and I'm happy to say they both seem to have come to the same conclusion that I have.
So - in conclusion - I would say absolutely not to convert to anything you don't believe in for yourself. Shakespeare put it best:

This above all: to thine own self be true.

Kathleen

Its a choice really u guys have to make... There is no easy choice there and at the end u have to decide... It will be very selfish of parents not letting there children what they really want... Maybe couple have to go against the will of parents and have to hope that eventually that parents will understand and accept them as they are...But as i said its really touch situation and there is no one way out...

True - my husband's parents never really accepted me but we live 3,000 miles away and it has never been that much of a problem.

Kathleen

I think it depends on the people involved. I hear there are people who have found solace in the religion they converted to for love and have grown to be very religious.

I don't think I myself would trade that. Being tolerant is one thing - changing your religion (or lack thereof) is something different but for some people it can mean a lot. I think it's just one more decision for some couples who have been raised diffrently.

Thanks for the opinions ppl - I was pretty much expecting those answers, but regarding the parent issue.... Let me make this a bit more complicated:

Parents very controlling (i.e. duaghter has to call her mum every night by 7 or she goes a bit crazy). They are in their mid 60's, so very set in their ways. The prospect of their daughter going out with someone of a different religion would bring shame on them from the community (i.e. not being able to socialise with the same ppl, egg's thrown at the house etc.... ) & the threat of suicide from the mum....

Would you consider conversion then??

I guess if you're in love with that person then yes you would, however hard it may be. You can't live your life to please your parents...sometimes you just have to make a stand and hope that they accept the situation to not lose a child

That's a low form of blackmail

If they really loved their child instead of trying to please some god, that apparently says love everyone (?), then they should be happy for them. If they don't want them to marry someone just because thei believe something different then obviously they don't love the child and care more about how it reflects upon them.