You can help, just by being there for him and supporting him with what he is going through. Sometimes problems are just too complex and people need someone who is a professional. It doesn't mean that you have failed in any way whatsoever. I went through something similar over the summer. A friend of mine was in a rough place and because I tried my hardest to help I got sucked into her problems and in the end was more of a hinderence than a help. She is in therapy now and I needed to be let off the hook so to speak. I find that now I can be a better friend and support her more by having that kind of distance. Jag, you are not failing, but you can't be everyone's saviour. Sometimes it is better to leave it to someone who does this for a living and is not emotionally involved like you are at the moment. Just be there, that's enough. Honestly.

Tash