Ex Partners

No relationship whatsoever. "Get out of my life and get out for good" is my theory.

Becky

Exactly my feelings. I tried once to keep in touch but conversations/meetings usually led to "what if we try again" until I realised why we ended up at the beginning. It is very hard to separate what it was before and what you want now.

Ive tried this lets be friends with x's and it doesnt work, one of the person in the realtionship always ends up wanting more, whether tis for 1 night or more. Something attracted you to each other in the first place its difficult to beleive that both people can then suddenly become unattractive to each other and stay that way.

If u want her back then go for it but take your time, if you dont want her back but she still wants you then keep your distance.

Dawn

so you had an easy lay and you turned it down? shame on you

but on a more serious note:


exes are exactly that for a reason.

if i ever bump into Ash i still get on incredibly well with her incredibly like i did before we started going out (which is kinda amazing considering) but I'm not going to ask her out on a date or to come a night out with my friends or anything like that ever.

I'm civil with all my exes if I cross their paths but I'm not going to start all that shite again with any of them.

as i said, they're exes for a reason. but if they're offering sex you might as well go for it. you get a point for that and a point for when you slip out in the middle of the night n leave her feeling like a total whore in morning

very well said...

yeah and hope u havent caught something through sleeping around ! :P

Dawn

I try to keep the amount of tramps i see to a minimum and wee J is always protected so no diseases as of yet. one of my mates just found out he's got VD though. he's either picked it up off his ex or a prossie.

It all depends on the drama in the end.

Generally, I'd say of course call her! It's always nice to have people remember your birthday and if the ending wasn't so 'smooth' it might show that things have normalized a bit again to a point where one does not have to change the side of the street if bumping into each other randomly.

On the other hand, if you were a bit psycho in the end, I'd say it might freak her out a bit to hear from you again (not that I'd ever think you have psycho tendencies :P)

Thanks a lot for all your responces.

Sex buddy's can be good yeah. I quite agree. We even discussed this on thursday night...but we didnt mention ourselves at this point.



Yeah, she didnt 'get it' on thursday, but it would of been easy to. Free house, both drunk etc....



Yeh, I have tried it also. Never really worked before. With this girl, it ended 'ok' ish...I guess. I remember being pretty heartbroken about this girl two years ago when we went out, but we kinda stayed in touch even though we only speak every few months. We never have a bad word to say about one another, so we do try, but it still feels a bit akward when I do actually see her. I am sure she feels pretty much the same as well.



Interesting.....



Yeah, I mean, I am still definately attracted to her. She always was an extremely good looking girl. She is clearly still attracted me also. I think it was more lust than it ever was lust...doesnt help if you start to fall for that person though. It took me a good while to get over her. I have often thought about 'one more night' and how good it was be, but when it was offered, I just didnt want it. I had gone through that a million times in my head and not once did I ever say no, but it just wasnt worth it in the long run, the other night.



No, I dont want her back. It would never work. I still think she is love with another ex boyfriend to be honest, and although it would fade eventually, I dont think I would wanna get myself into it all.



I know, I know! :P hehe, nah it just wasnt like that. I know if anything had of happened, it just would of opened a huge can of worms for me, and I know it wouldnt take much for me to start falling for her all over again. I knew she was going back to Nottingham to University today anyway, so it wasnt worth the possibility of getting hurt all over again.



Yeah, at the end of the day, I think I will try and remain friends or at least civil with her. I certainly dont wanna be going on more nights out with her. If she speaks to me, I wont ignore her, but I am not gonna go out of my way to see her.

A few I've managed to stay friends with but it also depends how it ends. If it ends badly then they are definitely out of my life.