Give an egg?

Would you donate sperm or an egg to help someone else have a baby? Especaily now that the child once they have reached 16 can ask who its "real" parents are .

I think that a tough question once you've already been a parent and know how kids want answers to questions. I would not donate casually (such as to a clinic) but I might if I had a family member that wanted a baby. Perhaps if I had a brother or sister that couldn't conceive and wanted a child I would have considered it. But after seeing the field day that the courts had in my country with the "Baby M" case I wouldn't touch a casual donation with a 10 foot pole. Of course, once the "parents" had their say in court, it was the child that suffered. She was divided between two sets of biological parents and that could not have been easy for the kid.

Kathleen

I'm really not sure if revealing the donors name is a good thing. There's a lot that can go wrong with that.

If I were able to remain anonymous, then yes.

Ice

The law in England has recently changed so that they can find out who their "real" parents are , which i think is wrong

Yeah, they're trying to do that in Finland as well. I don't see the point. They say it's fot the good of the child, but I can't see it that way.

Ice

I have female cousin, she can't conceive and she wants a child but she is still hoping to have her's own child.

Nat

if they could find out, much less so than i'd be willing if they didn't.

Not necesarilly a skeleton in the closet but think about it. I'm 40 n an 18 year old kid i've had a part in making turns up on my door wanting to bond and form a relationship... not somethign I'd necesarilly want to experience.

A mate of mines ex girlfriend opened her door one night a coupla years back and a girl was drunk at her door shouting a screaming, turns out her dad had an affair back in the day, enter illegitimate step sister....... not exactly the same thing but it's not toooooooo different.

I doubt I'd do it for someone I know. I know it's very noble and kind n all that but in reality think about it... i don't want to see my neice or nephew growing up when they're actually my kid and it would be harder on my bro or sis too i'd imagine.

The only time I'd donate is if I actually knew where the child would be brought up. I think there are a lot of people that shouldn't have children (not brought on by an unwanted pregnancy, but by painful medical treatment) and I would hate to see my child in a situation like that.

So, yes, I might consider it if it was someone close to me like a family member or friend, but that is about it.

Likewise, I wouldn't want to go to a spermbank in case I wanted another child. I would solicit some friends maybe lol or I would most definitely adopt one that does not have a current family.

Same here.... It will be hard once u know about deails about ur child i think...

I'd have to think twice about it but I'd only do it if it was for some acquaintance and perhaps if I encountered the situation in real life I wouldn't do it either.

As for the donor's name being revealed I think I can nderstand the change. One thing that haunts me - and has always done - is the thought of being adopted (which I'm not) and not knowing who my real parents were. Imagine the anguish.

That's why I wouldn't donate anonymously in a clinic. The thought of what would become of that child would haunt me as well.