if they could find out, much less so than i'd be willing if they didn't.

Not necesarilly a skeleton in the closet but think about it. I'm 40 n an 18 year old kid i've had a part in making turns up on my door wanting to bond and form a relationship... not somethign I'd necesarilly want to experience.

A mate of mines ex girlfriend opened her door one night a coupla years back and a girl was drunk at her door shouting a screaming, turns out her dad had an affair back in the day, enter illegitimate step sister....... not exactly the same thing but it's not toooooooo different.

I doubt I'd do it for someone I know. I know it's very noble and kind n all that but in reality think about it... i don't want to see my neice or nephew growing up when they're actually my kid and it would be harder on my bro or sis too i'd imagine.