help!

Why this smile

Because I was being immature, and I don't think I should be encouraging her to start a fight with her, it won't solve anything.

I think you know very well at this age, sometimes it happens ... even before or after too I don't want to encouraging her at all, but if she really cant take anymore ... and if she don't want to bash her because of what people could say ... it's a shame because the other one won't stop then, Maybe it's not nice to say that, but that's what i do myself
Now i'm older, so i can resist and look at the situation before doing anything ... but before ...

Of cource, but I think reading my post, without putting on a face to make it a joke, it would have read a little like I was saying if she can take her, she should do it.

I maintain though she should make herself tough. This doesn't have to be by just hitting somebody, if she can ignore them, thus giving them no way to get to her, she's won. At the moment, she's making herself open to bullying because she's showing she won't do anything, and she;ll give in to it. She needs to, in my opinion, ignore it, take it to a teacher (i.e shwoing she won't be messed with), or punch her one! Whichever she does, she shoudln't do it by halves. If she hits her, it should be hard enough so the girl knows not to mess with her again, if she see's a teacher she should do it so as to make a big deal out of it, and let the girl know she won't be taken advantage of.

she could send her in your direction

sounds like she's not even a friend. She sounds like a total b!tch to to me. I'd ditch her and go and find new friends. That is not what a real friend acts like.

I agree with not caring what other people think. If i cared what people think would i wear my Bon Jovi clothes to school? i do wear them, and get remarks from the stoners, but i don't give a fvck. If i cared what people think would i start dancing in the middle of the halls, singing some song? Would i skip down the senior hall? Would i put on a complete dramatic play thing in the middle of the hall during breaks? Would i do the Bruce Springsteen slide on the knees after the night seeing it on CBS? Would i do the dancey things Jon did at the concert? Would i be me? You can't possibly be yourself if you cared for what people thought.

But is this what this situation is about? She's getting picked on and taunted by one of her so-called "friends". And being ganged up on sometimes. That one "friend" is just a total b!tch - go tell someone. Tell the teachers. Go to the Guidance Counsleors, i'm sure they deal with this kind of stuff everyday. She can't possibly be your friend if she acts like that.

But then if she is her friend, and she said she didn't want to get her in too much trouble, then this isn't a serious situation at all. If it was, you wouldn't still be friends with her. The fact you are shows that on some level you're putting it on yourself, if it was that big a problem, then you should let her know she's by no means a friend anymore, then if it continues, then tell a teacher. Whilst she's your friend nobody's going to treat it that seriously