hey,

like i said i hate to do this again...but i can't really talk to this with my friends cause they're too involved it you get what i mean.....

i posted a while ago about my friend wanting to move to america, to be with some guy she's met on the net...

well i've just recently learned she's been cutting herself..she says she likes the adrenaline rush...it makes her feel better.....i know she used to do it...but it seems to be gettin' progressively worse...ever since she moved house a few years back...

but now i'm beginning to seriously worry about her...her parents marriage is at best rocky...a year or so a go we went through a period of not speaking...due to exams and stuff..for about a month or two and she got to know this other girl who was what you could call a BAD INFLUENCE...and i know she started smokin' and drinkin' and doin' drugs....i guess i wrongly assumed it was just a phase....cause just recently she admitted to me that she still used drugs....
she has over 30 piercin's...and i'm not sayin' this is the case for everybody obviously - but i think it may be some other form of self harm...she doesnt' get them cause she likes them - she gets them for the sake of it...(not that i have anythin' against piercin's you understand).....

she can't get a job because of the way she looks. .and she didn't do too well in her exams...i know she feels lonely..i'm her only friend - more like a sister really....but now i think she's deliberately sabotagin' her chances of gettin' a job...the thing is she's capable of so much...she's smart and friendly and intelligent...but i have a horrible feelin' she's goin' to ruin her life before it's really started......

she wont see a counselor or ask for help...and i honestly dont' know what to do....i know i can't force her to seek help...and somebody suggested i jsut wait....but i'm frightened to wait for too long..i dont' know if i should talk to her parents or not....i know she doesnt' want me to...but i don't know what i should to do help her....i hate seein' her like this..

has anybody dealt with somethin' like this before? any advice or suggestions...i really don't know what to do...