I get it, you mean ideally, I think.

I'll remind you, Maria was referring to no longer being attracted to them, not no longer loving them. That's the cluster fukc millions of married couples experience.

Perhaps I am misreading you, but you seem to be dismissive towards our efforts in our individual relationships.

Finally, simply because you love someone with every bit of yourself does not mean that person is good or right for you. You could very well be pouring yourself into a bottomless pit that leaves you a drained shell. That isn't how a love story goes, it's a horror story.

So when you love someone with every ounce of your being as you describe. Exactly how do you deal with it when they tell you you're a worthless loser that no one else will ever love? Your credit is ruined because they lied about their own finances and stuck you with their crippling debt that you had no clue of prior to marriage? When you lose your job because they kept calling to check up on you and harass you at work? How do you handle it when they rip up and burn the precious few photos you have left of your deceased beloved mother? What's next after they begin leaving bruises on your body? Time to work up that courage to discuss those relationship issues? "You're the problem. You make me do it. End of discussion" goes the response when you calmly sit them down to work it out. What do you do when you turn up HIV + because they kept cheating on your whenver they pleased? Any problems with the aforementioned, it's all because you don't love them enough to accept them completely, of course. A little more love will fix all that.