Just something I'd like to share.

allmike · #11 03-03-2004, 06:49 PM

Online relation are hard to predict. But nice song though.

Mousebounce · #12 03-03-2004, 07:17 PM

Seb, you did your part to make amends. She is a dumb girl for not appreciating it. That poem was really thoughtful. She will never meet anyone else who would do such a nice thing.

RichieW2001 · #13 03-03-2004, 07:25 PM

i'll have ya....

Keeper · #14 03-03-2004, 07:37 PM

I think it was nice of you to write that for her and be so understanding. It's her loss, I guess.

Jim Bon Jovi · #15 03-03-2004, 08:22 PM

if she's going to go scatty when you do something as passionate as writing her a song then yo8u should have told her to **** off in no uncertain terms right there.

for something as personal and emotional as actually putting down what you feel onie paper and showing the person it's wrote for it is a really brave thing to do. I've got tonnes of stuff I wrote for ashlea that i could never bring myself to show her but I'm pretty sure if I did she would have took it as the compliment it was and not threw it back in my face.

you're an evil bastard anyway and i'm sure you'll survive but why not stick her back on your msn list and have a little fun messing with her head

alternatuively just send us all pictures

|| Panama || · #16 03-03-2004, 09:22 PM

if someone wrote me a poem like that then the first thing id do is probably run. not that id be ungrateful but id be so overwhelmed that i wouldnt know what to say. itd be so hard to say something back especially online becuase it would just wont sound right.but after a while once i got everything right in my own head would i be able to tell him how it made me feel. yes it would probably upset him and that's the bit i wouldnt like cause it wouldve meant so much....hmmm..slighly off topic sorry.

but i can actually say that i can somewhat understand her initial reactions.

jess · #17 03-03-2004, 11:50 PM

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Originally Posted by jade4jovi

This ring some bells. Its scary how people can change so quickly

So true !

Supersonic · #18 03-03-2004, 11:57 PM

Aloha !

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Originally Posted by Kathleen

I think you are very talented to be able to write that well in English as I assume you can in your native language.

Thank you, though I doubt it if I'm able to write the same things down in Dutch. Whenever I'm thinking about writing a song which captures my feelings and emotions it are always English lines that come up, they're never Dutch, plus that I can write clever lyrics in English that sound very dumb and silly when being translated into Dutch.

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Originally Posted by Kathleen

It sounds to me as if you more than went halfway in trying to mend things and it simply didn't work. You deserve points for tryng though and were able to write quite eloquently about it. Isn't this how good art is born?

Yes. This song really showed how I felt about it, every line describes perfectly how the situation is, there's no line in it that's unnecessary to me.

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Originally Posted by Mousebounce

She will never meet anyone else who would do such a nice thing.

It might be arrogance but to be honest I do think she'll never meet anyone who'll do something for her like this.

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Originally Posted by jess

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Originally Posted by jade4jovi

This ring some bells. Its scary how people can change so quickly

So true !

I think she did this too because she does not want to let me be close to her again, there's no need for her, as I had no intention to hurt her in any way. Now that she's reacting in this way she really upsets me and it didn't make our relationship which should grow into a good friendship any better.

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Originally Posted by Jim Bon Jovi

if she's going to go scatty when you do something as passionate as writing her a song then yo8u should have told her to **** off in no uncertain terms right there.

you're an evil ******* anyway and i'm sure you'll survive but why not stick her back on your msn list and have a little fun messing with her head

There have been many times I wanted to do so, but due to the history we have I never did. She visits a Bryan Adams forum though, and in every discussion I create I bash her arguments into the ground all for "The sake of the discussion" Whenever I find a weak argument (which she always comes up with) I make her sound like a geek, which is her own fault. And which in fact she is.

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you're an evil ******* anyway and i'm sure you'll survive but why not stick her back on your msn list and have a little fun messing with her head

alternatuively just send us all pictures

I could yes, but for now I've got enough fun on that messageboard as she always comes up with weak and stupid arguments which don't make sense since she constantly accuses me of things she's doing herself. She's currently making a fool of herself and has lost some credibility as usually people looked up to her knowledge but now they slowly don't do that anymore. I always win.

No but to be honest the most pain has been healed but I sometimes do regret that it had to end this way. At least I can't blame myself.

Salaam Aleikum,
Sebastiaan

jade4jovi · #19 03-04-2004, 12:02 AM

Isnt it sad how you can be in love one minute then the next your ignoring the person or thinking up ways to piss her/him off. Ive seen it happen to many times. Love never lasts..

RyanBounce04 · #20 03-04-2004, 12:13 AM

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Originally Posted by Supersonic

Aloha !

Maybe a few of you remember the topic about online relationships in which I shared my story of a girl I fell in love with online. When we met for the first time in real life it didn't work out and she didn't want to give it another chance. After the meeting she suddenly had another attitude and didn't agree with anything I said. I decided to avoid her for a while by not talking to her which helped a bit since when we talked for the first time after a while it got better.

She said she realised she still thought about her previous crush very much, a guy called Joris, and that she hoped I could sort of replace him as she never had the guts to call or mail him or something after she met him. I understood her and we spoke about it lots of times. I thought it was good too as we finally had something to talk about again without annoying eachother. She said she would see him again in August during the Pukkelpop festival in Belgium where she met him for the first time too as they both worked for the organisation. Things gotten better as we (while we didn't say we would) didn't talk to eachother as much as usual, but when we talked we had good talks and no more annoying discussions in which we both got angry at eachother.

I began to think that I might have been a moron as well when I formed my reactions to her in some discussions, and suddenly lots of lines came up and I wrote a song about it. I decided to send it to her on valentines day including a card, to sort of apologise for what happened.

Sorry this isn’t Joris
but I thought you deserved a card
We’ve had our little romance
which found it’s place here in my heart
Sometimes you might feel lonely
when you’re not in his arms
Maybe in August it will change
and you’ll see time did have it’s charms

Don’t worry this ain’t a way
to show you I’m still in love
This is just a way to thank you
for your hugs and the good laughs
You’ve really helped me out some times
when listening to my crap
And I thought this would be a nice way
to give you something back

Anyway
I gotta say
I’ll be seeing you again
And our relation will have grown further
From a lover to a friend

I know you’ve had your moments
and I’m sure that I’ve had mine
It might have been our own ignorance
heh we’re both funny valentines
I know I sometimes am a moron
for not showing who I am
But I promise when it’s all over
I’ll be nice on msn

Anyway
I gotta say
I’ll be talking to you soon
Enjoy this valentines day
A kiss, a hug, I love you too.

When she did receive it her reaction disappointed me very much. Her first reaction was that she had been stupid for falling in love with me online, stupid for expecting so much (while we did and still do have a lot in common). I now realise that it wasn't me who's reactions had been stupid but it was her who's opinions and arguments had been weak, plus that I found out that some of her arguments and "facts" weren't true at all but just made up to “win” the discussion, something which she had accused me of a few times. She does not let anybody defend their argument as she claims she’s always right because she studies it (which she does though) and therefore thinks she knows all about it as she divides every person in a category without knowing enough of the person her/himself.

I now have thrown her out of my MSN list without telling her. (she'll probably know though) This might sound silly but after all the good conversations we had before we met were they still were in the back of my mind which kept me away of throwing her out. Now she sort of screwed it for herself. I now do know too that she isn't ready for a relationship, and that that Joris guy will find that out too.

Anyway, just needed to get this off my chest.

Salaam Aleikum,
Sebastiaan

As much as I wouldn't like to feel sorry for you I do... Great writting there though... Online relationships are tough and letting go is tough too. Hope everything works out! You need to keep writting because some of the stuff you come up with blows me away. I do feel like I'll see this famous song writer named Sebastiaan one day.

Keep up the good work and I'm sure you will find the love of your life very soon.

Ryan

Just something I'd like to share.

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