Letting Some Feelings Out....

ponrauil · #11 11-29-2003, 05:48 AM

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Originally Posted by RyanBounce04

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Originally Posted by ponrauil

Hey Ryan,

My girlfriend and I have been together for 7 and 1/2 years now, and we've had to be apart from one another several times, longest was for 6 months.
I think the most important thing is to be honest and trust one another. I mean if she has no problem telling you she's going out with friends that means she feels her love for you is strong enough, and the same if you're ok telling her you're having fun it probably means your love for her is strong enough. As long as you have no doubt about your love for one another and from one another it's ok. As long as true love is there, just stay honnest, trustfull and trustworthy as both of you seem to be now.

"Absence is to love what wind is to fire, it extinguishes the little and pokes the great."
(Translated from french with words I'm not quite sure about but I hope you get the message

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I hope you two make it through this tough period.

Ponrauil

Thanks! That makes me feel much better!

Ryan

You're very welcome

Ponrauil

Miracle · #12 11-29-2003, 07:14 AM

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Originally Posted by jenn1189

Well, Ryan I'm sorry that things aren't going so well for you and Heather right now. I know that I wouldn't be able to be that far away from Mike for that long. I would wait and see what happens when she comes out in a few weeks. That way you guys will be together and you can see how things are when she's with you. I wouldn't stay at home all the time because she doesn't want you to go out though. It's not fair to you for her to be able to go do whatever she wants, but you can't. If she doesn't trust you, then there is something deeper wrong. I've been with Mike for 14 years (Today!) and whenever anyone asks us how we've lasted, our answer is that we always trusted each other. I hope things work out for you!

14 years?!!! Congrats Jen and Mike!!

Stephanie

Frickj91 · #13 11-29-2003, 07:24 AM

Well first, congrats to Jen! 14 years... that is wonderful!

And to Ryan... it sounds to me like you and Heather just need to re-evaluate what is going on. A friend of mine was in a similar situation and I will tell you the same thing I told him: if you can get through the next year or two (because aren't you going to college by her?) then you will have the rest of forever to spend together. If you both really love each other, and if it is really ment to be, then what is the next year or two compared to the rest of your life? I know it seems like a long time, and it is going to be hard, but if you and Heather can make it though this, you can make it through anything.
Hope this helps!

Iceman · #14 11-29-2003, 02:21 PM

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Originally Posted by RyanBounce04

She is out all the time and I am here, waiting for her, missing her. When I decide I want to go out she has a cow and doesn't want me to go. I don't think it is fair and I get fed up with it and we fight. It happens every week and I just think we don't want to lose each other. What should I do? Well, thank you for listening and if you have any advice that would be wonderful.

Been there, done that. We were 17, she was in the States and I stayed here. If you don't go out and do something, you lose your mind. If she gets mad, then she doesn't trust you enough. You two better work out the trust thing, cause without it you won't last.

And I'm with Mouse. Go out, have fun, but stay loyal. Don't do anything you wouldn't want her to do. I wish someone'd told me that when I was younger.

I spent 6 months just getting more and more depressed and when I finally decided to let go, it was kinda too late.

Don't miss out on the best time of your life. And even though it's kinda rough, remember: it's only love. It won't kill you. You have to do what you need to do. It's up to you to figure out what it is you need to do. It's not her decision. Talk it out, work it out.

Ice

*-- Vallie --* · #15 11-29-2003, 03:12 PM

I don't have exprerience with this and I think you already had some nice reactions . Just wanted to say I hope it will all work out and you get stronger out of this !

If she is the one you love ... don't let go !

Fleurtje · #16 11-29-2003, 03:29 PM

Like vallie said I hope things will work out!
And that this story will have a happy end!

*-- Vallie --* · #17 11-29-2003, 03:38 PM

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Originally Posted by Fleurtje

Like vallie said I hope things will work out!
And that this story will have a happy end!

" End " isn't a good word but you know what I mean

Fleurtje · #18 11-29-2003, 03:41 PM

hahahaaha yeah I know what you mean :P..
A Happy continue ?? is that the right word? I didn`t want to pick my dictionary :P

*-- Vallie --* · #19 11-29-2003, 03:48 PM

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Originally Posted by Fleurtje

hahahaaha yeah I know what you mean :P..
A Happy continue ?? is that the right word? I didn`t want to pick my dictionary :P

Yes much better

Noooo leave the dictionary in the closes on Saturdays

Jim Bon Jovi · #20 11-29-2003, 04:26 PM

hang in there mate. obviously u want to keep her happy and all but u cant have her not letting u go out and the biggest killer of relationships is lack of trust. ive got mates who go out with people they dont trust or the person doesnt trust them and in the end whats the point when they dont want to go out cos itll cause too much hassle.

apparently ashlea said we should go on a break last night. nothign to do with me whatsoever, she just got really drunk and ended up talking pish so i just switched off and when ig ot in from work shes being all niced to me saying how stupid she is n stuff and im like eh...

anyways back on track. just chill and let it roll and see what happens.

Letting Some Feelings Out....

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