Marriage and Living together.....

How is a contract the same as divorce????? You are confusing me!!

For the most part, I think that is wrong. When two people get married, it's usually to show each other that they are totally commited to one another. It's like saying that "i want to be with you for the rest of my life." Sadly of course, a lot marriages don't end up that way and the 2 get divorced. They usually didn't really know each other or were not ready for that kind of commitment.

I see nothing wrong with 2 unmarried people living together. You do have to get to know the person really well before getting into anything serious like marriage. Living together can help you know who that person really is, and not just what you think they are. It is almost like marriage and it can test whether or not you really want to be with the person and be that commited. It makes it eaiser to leave that person if you are just living together and not married.

Yes. You don't buy a dress without trying it on first.

Personally, I wouldn't live with a woman before I married her. It's just something I wouldn't consider doing. It's a religious thing for me. I DO plan on dating for a very long time (several years) though, to try and make sure that she is indeed "the one."

Adrian

whoever u live with will get on your nerves, so making sure your in a contract of marriage when the going gets tough its then not as easy for either partner to walk out , it makes you stick at it and work at it.

I living together is like playing house , its not the real deal .

Dawn

Adrian, do you really think someone would keep dating for several years without going any further? I would never do such a thing. I'm living together with my girlfriend that I met about four years ago and we have been living together now for over 2 years. We also have a kid together, a son that's 1½ year old.

Both me and my girlfriend (read fiance as we've been engaged since 2001) want to get married, but that was never a thinkable idea before living together. My philosophy, being no more right that any other, is that by living together before getting married you know wether or not it's possible to make the relationship last. What's the use in getting married if you have no idea if you can't even live together? Getting married is something you do when you know that you want to spend the rest of your life with that person, and that's litterary impossible before you've lived together. It's a whole different story, and the dating before living together can be peachy and wonderful but when you live together you can claw each others eyes out.
That said, me and my fiance want to get married but we can't afford it. Merely since we are both university students at the time and we have said we're getting married once we're finished in university. I think it's great to have it like this, live together as a family and you know it's going to last and therefor get married. That's my philosophy though, if others don't like it or accept it that's for them, we are all different..

I like to think that's it's more, a one than the one. plenty of them out there.

Thats a bad thing IMO. 9 times out of ten a relationship like that relationship will end anyway, at least if you're only living with someone its not as big a commitment.

Srry! I now realise I misunderstood one of your sentences. I thought you had said that one of the advantages is that you can always break the contract, and thus I talked about divorce. But I had got you wrong. Sorry again

exactly what's such a bad idea about living together before getting married apart from the daft idea of people living in sin?

seriously I'm interested to hear soem opinions on this one.