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Old 12-11-2003, 03:42 PM
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Sometime between 4:00 and 5:00 on Monday morning, my dad had a massive heart attack (we assume) and died immediately. I had mentioned that we both had been sick for weeks. He was diabetic too. But this was still completely unexpected. He never had any heart problems in his life. His doctor was at the house Sunday checking on him and all his vital signs were good, the pneumonia was clearing up well, his oxygen saturation was higher than it had ever been. He felt better and was planning on going to work on Monday. He was fine when my mom woke up around 4:00 to go to the bathroom. When the alarm went off at five, it looked like he had sat up on the side of the bed and just laid down across it. He didn't struggle or anything.

We had the visitition at the funeral home Tuesday night. There was a huge outpouring of people who came to pay their respects. The funeral was yesterday. I still can't believe all the people who have been there for him and for us the past few days. I wish I'd been able to take notes about the things people said about him--honest, kind, fair, treated everyone like they were important, a good man. He was the best.

I'm in shock. I don't want to think because it just means I'll cry--not for him because he's at peace and he's not suffering--but for the loss of him. I miss him so much. He was the most important person in my life and I can't believe he's not going to be there for me to talk to or just to give a hug anymore. My mom is distraught (we all are). She's a widow way too young and now has to run the business without him. I guess she'll probably sell it. I know she could handle it on her own, but why bother.

Anyway, would those of you who believe in prayer say some for me and my family. We need it.

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Old 12-11-2003, 03:48 PM
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OMG, Becky I am realy so sorry to hear of your Fathers death. I had goosepimples all over when I was reading that. My aunty died on saturday, so were both kind of in the same boat now, only it is your dad who were on about and clearly you were much closer to him, than i was to my aunty. Aww, im really sorry Becky
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Old 12-11-2003, 04:18 PM
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I’m so sorry Becky, it is so sad I don’t know what to say. When I read your post tears came to my eyes, it was so touching. I’ll pray for you and your family, he’s up in heaven now taking care of you and your mom from above
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Old 12-11-2003, 04:19 PM
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I know how you feel Becky and I am very sorry and lots of prayers are coming from here. My Grandmother was suffering from pheunomia and was having breathing problems and she died just a week before my Birthday. The best way to cope with these things is just to remember how good of a man he was. Remember the good times and you should see a smile come to your face. I am sure he is in heaven watching over you. God's Peace.

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Old 12-11-2003, 04:19 PM
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Becky,
My utmost sympathy to you and your family. I'm so sorry for your loss. I will keep you in my thoughts. Take care.
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Old 12-11-2003, 04:25 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, Becky I don't have words right now, but you and your family are in my thoughts. If I prayed I'd pray for you... It's a huge loss, and I can understand that you miss him so much! Stay strong, he'll always be there with you in your heart and your mind.
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I'm so sorry Becky. Last year my uncle whom I was very close to died completely unexpectedly so I know what a shock it must be. My thoughts are with you and your family.
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I feel realy sorry for you Becky,it must be so hard at the moment.Its one of the worst things that can happen in your life,especially as he was so young.Just try to remember all the good times with him.Be thinking of you
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trying to find the right words to say is so hard. i am so sorry becky. reading this may not help at all, but you have my deepest sympathies and i feel for you and your family. don't keep things bottled up. cry if you want to, it really does help. you just have to keep strong and focus on all the great things about your dad. what everyone said was really touching about your dad and you have to hold on to these memories.
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So sorry to hear of your loss Becky. Cant for one minute imagine what you're going through.

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