Parents divorced?

Thanks, that's a great song.

My whole life has changed so when you say you know now you have little control on what can happen (bad things) that's exactly that. I used to turned crazy when i was losing control, now i know (oh i guess i knew this before but accepting was the problem maybe ? )
And i've learnt to deal with things in a different way too.

And the important thing now is how my kids feel with this big change in their life. And i know if im fine they are too. If i'm down or stressed they are too.

We've explained them all and insisted on the fact that they are for nothing in all that. And all the "classic blabla" about the parents decison, (that's life, we still love them the same etc etc .....)
During a time they kept questionning me about this or that. Not so much anymore. Routine ....
They are "old" enough to remember what happened in our life and why we took this decision, so they know by themselves that it was the good decision, on the other hand i hope they don't keep too many bad memories.

I hope one day, soon, i can tell them myself that i'm not angry anymore ... (for the moment i pretend im not ...... :s)

Yes ... this is what i see ....

Can I ask ... How old are you ? when all that happened for you ?

Oh i know this too !!!! and i hope my daughter won't feel the same ! and i hope my son will treat girls/women well !!!!!!!

I think honestly they have more chance now with a "successful" separation rather than living in the midle of arguments, shouts and more ....

Well, atlough it's effected me, my mum always did her best with us. She's always there for us, loves us, etc. I would love to have a dad that actually cares that I exsist, but my mum is enough for me really. I've never blamed her or anything. My dad/my mum and dad's relationship might have been totally different to your situation, so you know. But I'm sure as long as they have at least you, to love them, they will be fine and won't be angry at you for it. And just to let you know, my brother saw a lot with my mum and dad, and he is like the nicest guy you can meet...lovely to his wife, and a brilliant father. He took my dad as an example of what NOT to be. So it can always go the other way.

29 now. My parents final split was when I was 16, but the family had been going to hell for a good 10 years.

Understanding definitely came as I grew more independent in my late teens/early twenties.

You know how people say "The Abused Abuse"?

Well, that's never true IMO