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Girls aren't all that fragile and flighty, Adrian. I doubt she was bothered/irritated ... you are overanalyzing every move she makes and it ain't productive.

...and why would asking about a movie be a 'crazy question'?

Chill out and roll with the punches. Most of all, just ask her out already.

Hi Adrian,
Your post reminds me of many of mine, I too have posted questions about dating/relationships/why people act this way or that way/what do you think this means/etc... and believe me I completely over analyze every little thing as well. I just wanted you to know that you are not alone when it comes to obsessing over stuff

Anyway... to answer your question. Yes, I have to agree that even though it is a risk and you may not get the answer you want I would just be honest with this girl. Tell her how you feel and hopefully she will be honest with you. The worst thing you want is to be soooo into someone who you think likes you but you kind of aren't 100% sure. Trust me if someone likes you they will let you know. Just a warning even if she goes bowling with you or does go to this movie if you really like her a ton but she is dating around / seeing other guys i would say you don't want to read too much into "just hanging out". I was hanging out with this guy who I really thought liked me, and then he came to me and said he was sorry if he'd been leading me on. Now he just has major issues himself with an ex and things i won't even get into but needless to say I was completely devestated. But I have to say at least now I know. Just be careful with your feelings.

The other thing is and I absoultely HATE when people say this but it is so true is if it doesn't work out just remember there are plenty of other fish in the sea. If this girl doesn't go for you it is her loss.

I hope it all works out.

No you ain't alone man.
Sometimes Adrians post give me the heebee jeebees too.

I think it has a lot to do with you insecurity Adrian.
Sometimes that freaks girls out, others like it but if you let it show too much people tend to freak out.

ok, you have a problem making decisions, it happens, with everyone. just get over the fact of what could, should or would and just let it all flow man. Tell this girl how you feel. At the ver least I think she'll apreciate it and even if she doesn't, as Jim said, she's gone in a month and a half so **** it.

Jim:I work weekends and so does she. We'll see what's going on when next I go over there.

DevilsSon:How the hell do you read skinhead Nazi into me? I couldn't be more diversified if I tried. I've had black friends, Native American friends, one of my friends from work is in a wheelchair (to be executed under any Nazi rule, I'm sure) and two of my bosses, who are also good work-friends are gay. I also work with a Pakistani woman and a Jewish boy, both of whom I get along well with. Right-of-center and nervous around women does not a Nazi make, though I can tell you what "assume" does if you do some rearranging.

I trap and release earwigs I find in my house for Gods sakes. If I inspire fear in you then either A.You're contemplating breaking into my house or B.There is something wrong with you. Given your geographical location, I'll roll with B.

I hold my feelings in, I don't trust people easily even if I know them, which is why talking to the object of my affections about such things has me all-atwitter, especially since it's one of the few friendships I've had that have lasted, and dynamiting this one brings down a whole house of cards.

Adrian

ETA:I'll probably write more tomorrow. It's one in the morning here, and I'm going to bed.

You can't win until you're not afraid to lose. I went by that when I started going out with my boyfriend. I can't begin to tell you how good I feel about not having been a coward and let things be.

Just go for it.

I've decided my course of action will be to invite her for coffee when I head back to college in the fall. Either when I'm actually going to school, or when I go a couple of times to check out the schedules and rooms and stuff. Either that or see what's up when I see her next.

Adrian

Go for it, man - what's it all going to matter in 100 years anyway?

theres a saying never shit on your own doorstep ! If it goes wrong u r stuck with looking at her if she doesnt move out and her parents .... as there has already been a issue its not a good base.

Take it slow, perhaps get closer to her friendship wise and if she moves out to an apartment go for it otherwise it might just be to close for comfort. Very rarely is the girl next door your soul mate!

Dawn

Rashbaum:I was wondering where you'd disappeared to! Welcome back!

Dawn:...and all the reasons you described above are exactly why I'm having a hard time with this. It needs to be done delicately and precisely.

I will continue trying to get closer to her friendship-wise. Not that hard really, she IS a friend. I just hope I didn't "scare her away" with what I said earlier.

Adrian