No, not mine. Fortunately, I am still years away before this issue will come up!

There is a huge discussion going on at work and it made me think that I might not be normal and quite possibly am about to screw up my kid for life.


Here is the deal.

Sister caught 12 year old brother looking at porn on the computer. Sister tells on brother. By the time the mother runs up there, son has deleted the history files on the computer and gotten rid of all evidence. Mother is out of her mind and doesn't know what to do. She is soliciting all sorts of net nanny and cyber snoop software, etc. Basically, she wants a way to make sure her children cannot access porn on the computer ever again.

Tons of people giving advice, everybody knowing way too much about cyber snoop software.

ONE male guy, said that controlling the environment isn't going to do much, as the kid can look at porn at a friends house, circumvent the parental controls, become sneaky and manipulative to get to porn. This guy suggested that another male person has a man-to-man talk with the kid about appropriate behavior and about the changes in the kids life.

A mother said that she talks to her kids about porn in the same manner as she talks to them about cigarettes, drugs and alcohol. (not really following her rationale).


Now, honestly, I have yet to meet a man that does not watch porn and for the most part they are all quite normal . They might not do it in front of their mothers, but they all do at one point or another. I used to think it is normal and not something that would make boys look at women as objects of lust (cough, cough, well any more than they already do). But apparently all the mothers here aren't even able to say the 'p' word out loud. It is always referred to as inappropriate content.


Anyway, I'd like to hear from the male audience what your experiences are (no, not how much porn you watch but rather how normal it is and if it corrupted your views of women) and the female members, how you feel about it and if you think it is dangerous for boys/men to watch porn.

Also, what age is ok and what is too young? I'd think that if they are curious about it, it is time to realize the kid is no longer a kid. Whether that is at 14 or 18.