Somebody help me...please

yeh, sending the flowers would be a nice gesture as a "extra apology" thats a good idea, it shows how much I care and you were all right, it is a bit too heavy, if we were goin out, then I wouldnt hesitate.

I will see her in work tomorrow, its just that it will be really hard to get chance to talk to her, especially if we were really busy. Its finding that time to say something, I need her to be alone. I just wanna be with her for 5 mins and explain everything t her and to assure her that nothing will ever happen like this ever again. We have been best friends for only 6 months, but they have been 6 of the best months of my life. And I know, im her best friend too, so its not just a one way thing. She really does mean everything to me..without her...I dont think I can cope.

Thanks Vallie, I will do indeed....hopefully, I will have some news by this time tomorrow night...

THATS the scary part Yvonne, making the first move/step is always going to be hard. Im not going to through everything we have got, away though over a bloody argument...even if it was a big one...

I am confident, that everything will work out in the end...even for the better...who knows. Im just going through a bad patch right now and am frightened that there is a chance she wont want to talk to me no-more.

Sorry everyone for burdering all this onto you, but you always give good advice and I knew that you guys would be the right ones to talk to.

You guys ROCK!
Kev (Feeling a little better about things)

Just a comment Kev - I wound up marrying my "best friend" at age 20. Maybe she is more than just a best friend and that is why you're upset.

Kathleen

Are you sure you want to talk to her at work?? That can be quite rushed and not really private. You can ask her if she wants to meet after work as you'd really like to talk to her. If you're sincere, she will go for it.
Don't worry too much. I'm sure it will all work itself out. If you really are close and such good friends as you say and as it seems, it will be fine. Arguments can clear the air a bit and bring some things up that otherwise won't be discussed, you'll be fine, just be sincere.
Good luck and keep us posted!!

Tash

I know what you mean, i have fallen for best friends in the past, and it always tourns out to be bad news. Shes a very good looking girl, but this time I have managed to put a block on myself from feeling any more than friendship for her. Shes the best! It would be a dream however, to marry your best friend. I think thats how it should be...who knows what the furture will bring for us.

As you say, work isnt the best place to talk things through, your totally right! I think I will tell her during work that we need to talk and suggest going for a drink after work to sort things out. We often go out for drinks anyway, so I would like to hope/think this should be fine this time around also.

Well good luck to you - Remember even a best friend has to get up the courage to say that they feel more than friendship. Keep us posted, I'm always a sucker for best friend stories.

Kathleen

Im just going to stick with the "getting back to mates" thing at the mo. That would do fine

Hi Kev

Sorry to hear about this.

You now you recognise her as your rock and i can probably bet my bottom dollar that she recognises you as hers. You both said things that you shouldn't have said and you are both going through that insecure time when you are wondering "did that person mean it, even though they said they don't" You are both probably feeling as hurt as each other and both as unsure at the moment of each other, she might have blanked you because she is embarrassed and might feel awkard around you.

I don't think its different between same sex friends and or opposite sex friends, i thinks its how deep the friendship flows and the deeper it gets the more intense the arguments can become because you care for them so much.

Remember Gordon, he is my best friend and my rock he has been there for me at the worst of time, he has been the ONLY one there at the worst of times. Me and Gordon had a massive falling out and we just didn't contact each other for a week, i was telling people that it felt like i had lost a limb and that i couldn't believe he was being so stubbourn and that i hadn't felt so lost since i split up with a girl after four years of dating. He was the closest relationship i had to me and knows everything about me. I thought he was being really selfish and wondering how he could not bother to pick up the phone.

Little did i know he was telling people the same thing, that if he lost me as a friend his life would never be the same and that he couldn't believe i was not ringing him.

The result of that argument is that the friendship between me and Gordon is stronger now, because it was really tested to the limits.

I bet you that you will be speaking in a couple of days and that the friendship will be much stronger.

I wouldn't do flowers or anything else ohter then go up to her and say that your sorry, that you value the friendship that you have and that you don't want to lose that friendship, thats as far as you have to go as to admitting your feelings

Hope it helps and good luck


See you soon!

Thanks mate
Great story, great to hear. Good to know someone (im sure everyone has of course) else has been there and done that!

You made some real good poins there, some which are identicle to my situation, so that really cheered me up, knowing that you and gorden sorted everything.

I guess, she prob is feeling the same right now...without sounding heartless, i hope that she is...just so, if/when we make up, then we will both know what we have lost in one another and then hopefully, make things better next time.

and if the unlikely thing happens and you don't make up its her loss cos yer a sound lad!!!!! i wouldn't be coming all that way for a drink if you weren't ( well actually i would, i only really want my suncream back you thieving git )