Stupid doctors!

Thanks, Alex.

They're not going to tell my grandmother. With her age the doctor has said that it's for the best. If they do decide to operate on her they will think of something not so serious to tell her. If they don't operate then I don't know what they'll tell her. So she's quite calm, feeling she's in good hands now while the family is sort of devastated knowing the news.

That is how it started with my Dad, but he was only 56 when they found it. It might appear not very tactfully, but I think you will have to consider that with 92 years she's reached a blessed age.
It is always painful to hear such news, equally what age, but you can't change it, so is life and despite all it IS beautiful. Keep your head up and all the best for your Granny.

Thank you. Oh, I'm aware that at 92 if it wasn't this it would have been something else. Your dad though was too young - and there's a whole different way of looking at it It's sad all the same though.

My grandmother is feeling quite cheerful these days thinking she's going to get better since the doctors are treating her. It's so heartbreaking to know what the real deal is. But I think she has lived her life to the fullest, has known 14 great-grandchildren, etc. But still.

This is one of my biggest fears, to see the ones I love getting closer and closer to the end... i obviously can't say i know what you're going through, but id like you to know that i understand its a very hard situation, and you and your family are in my thoughts

Keeper this must be really painful for you and your family. As some of you might know I lost my dad about 6 weeks ago, he had cancer too. He was too weak to operate, and we had to cope with that.
But a positive thing ( as you can say it this way) was that we were knowing about him going to die so the time we had left had been very preciuos to all of us. Though his dead came suddenly we keep th elast months and weeks in our harts and they are as I said very very preciuos.
So please try to do so, spend as much time as possible with your gramdma, be nice and spoil her as much as you can. She will like her remaining days and you will remember them as " good" days.
keep your head up and you`ll be in my thoughts.

Thanks for the kind words, Rakel and Inge.

I'm really sorry to hear that, Inge. I can only imagine how it was like. We're only at the top of the hill and now it's downwards all the way, so I'm still "imagining" your feelings as I say.

Oh I'm so sorry to hear that . I know she has led a long life but that is a very unpleasant way to die. I watched my grandfather die from it and it was long, drawn out and painful. You and she are in my thoughts.

Kathleen

I'm really sorry to hear about Cristine . Its always sooooo hard to see the close one in so much pain.... All i can hope and pray is that ur grandmother don't have to go though lot of pain and get well soon..

Thanks for the kind words, Kathleen. I'm just back from seeing her today and I came out of the hospital so depressed. She was sleeping all the time - she didn't even know I was there. She had had a bad night last night. Now they've found there's something else wrong with her intestines They're going to do a scanner of her whole body to assess how extended the cancer is and then see what's best.

My mum is getting second thoughts about not telling her. My grandmother is becoming very nervous about not knowing (she doesn't know we know) and it would perhaps be better. I don't know. I think it's really sad and heartbreaking to keep her thinking she's going to get better when she most probably isn't. But I also think she should be heedless to all the problems and live carefree to the end. It's all so complicated and sad

Thanks, Allwyn. But the thing is, she probably won't

That is what I've been thinking all this time. Objectively, I'd say I would like to know, but then, that opens up a whole lot of other issues.

Very difficult indeed!

You and your family are in my thoughts Keeper.