Stupid doctors!

Mousebounce · #31 06-15-2005, 11:37 PM

Keeper, I am really sorry to hear about this. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Kev · #32 06-15-2005, 11:54 PM

Im really sorry to hear this. You and your family are in my thoughts

Keeper · #33 06-16-2005, 07:55 PM

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My mum is getting second thoughts about not telling her. My grandmother is becoming very nervous about not knowing (she doesn't know we know) and it would perhaps be better. I don't know. I think it's really sad and heartbreaking to keep her thinking she's going to get better when she most probably isn't. But I also think she should be heedless to all the problems and live carefree to the end. It's all so complicated and sad

That is what I've been thinking all this time. Objectively, I'd say I would like to know, but then, that opens up a whole lot of other issues.

Very difficult indeed!

You and your family are in my thoughts Keeper.

Thanks, Spunky. Everyday I find myself thinking time and time again about what *I*'d like to - whether to be told or kept in the dark. And everyday I simply reach no conclusion. I start seeing all the pros and cons of each and can't decide. It's terrible. So I can only sympathise with my mother and aunt and uncle who have to decide whether to tell my grandmother or not. I don't know mine - imagine taking someone else's decision!

Mouse & Kev - thank you.

Alex · #34 06-16-2005, 10:14 PM

It must be so very tough.

And whatever they'll decide, it will be awful.

I wish you and your family a lot of wisdom and strength.

inge · #35 06-16-2005, 10:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Keeper

My mum is getting second thoughts about not telling her. My grandmother is becoming very nervous about not knowing (she doesn't know we know) and it would perhaps be better. I don't know. I think it's really sad and heartbreaking to keep her thinking she's going to get better when she most probably isn't. But I also think she should be heedless to all the problems and live carefree to the end. It's all so complicated and sad

That is what I've been thinking all this time. Objectively, I'd say I would like to know, but then, that opens up a whole lot of other issues.

Very difficult indeed!

You and your family are in my thoughts Keeper.

Thanks, Spunky. Everyday I find myself thinking time and time again about what *I*'d like to - whether to be told or kept in the dark. And everyday I simply reach no conclusion. I start seeing all the pros and cons of each and can't decide. It's terrible. So I can only sympathise with my mother and aunt and uncle who have to decide whether to tell my grandmother or not. I don't know mine - imagine taking someone else's decision!

Mouse & Kev - thank you.

Maybe your grandmother will get a bit lesser nervous when she knows. Maybe sometimes it`s a bit easier knowing you`d have to say goodbye to those you leave behind? I don`t know, It`s those who know your grandmum the best to decide if she can handle knowing. This is very very difficult for your mother to decide.I wish herand your family all th estrength they need and all the wisdom they need for this decision.

Keeper · #36 06-17-2005, 12:34 AM

My grandmother was sort of told today. My mother couldn't stand not telling her anymore so she gathered up some courage and told her. She didn't mention the word "cancer" which is very scary. She just said her colon wasn't working well at all due to her age. My grandmother took it quite well, and understood.

The doctor said today that there are two operations. One of them is compulsory and will probably end up in my grandmother having to wear one of those bags for, you know

The other is optional and still depends on some results they're getting tomorrow. My grandmother has said she will bear with the compulsory one but she doesn't want the other one. We'll see what the doctor says tomorrow about those results.

allmike · #37 06-17-2005, 12:43 AM

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My grandmother was sort of told today. My mother couldn't stand not telling her anymore so she gathered up some courage and told her. She didn't mention the word "cancer" which is very scary. She just said her colon wasn't working well at all due to her age. My grandmother took it quite well, and understood.

The doctor said today that there are two operations. One of them is compulsory and will probably end up in my grandmother having to wear one of those bags for, you know

The other is optional and still depends on some results they're getting tomorrow. My grandmother has said she will bear with the compulsory one but she doesn't want the other one. We'll see what the doctor says tomorrow about those results.

I think telling her about it good thing, its not good keeping thing off her anyway... I hope what ever option doctor takes, its help her and she don;t have to go though pain in these age...

inge · #38 06-18-2005, 04:46 PM

I think telling her has been wise, but I am worried about an operation. Would she be strong enough to get through it?

Keeper · #39 06-18-2005, 06:13 PM

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I think telling her has been wise, but I am worried about an operation. Would she be strong enough to get through it?

Depending on a few tests that must be done, the doctors are willing to take the risk, yes.

Stupid doctors!

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