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Couldn't agree more

Well, here is a little update ...
I had my birthdayparty this weekend. It was just friends at my place eating BBQ, drinking and making fun ... Now, I already told a bit about how I feel they bale on me ! ... I must confess I had a really good time Saturday and Im glad it all went good and the old-happy-friends-feeling was still there but I also know in my head it will probably stay with that ... What I mean by that?? I still feel the friendship comes from one side (Im always asking everyone to do this or that, ask how they are doing, being supporting (cause I think friends are sooooo important so I wanna be a good one as well ! I know Im not perfect on it but I do my best and that is something I can't say about some (most) of my friends ... I think that's a pity ... I can't understand why they don't feel like it's so important the way I feel about it all ... They hardly ask to do something fun, talk about serious things (well we do but then it's mostly about them), ...

What Im trying to say is that I feel Im losing my friends and Im really sad about that (since I don't have a good family (I do have good parents ) and I don't have boyfriends ... friends are all I got ...) Im sad about the fact it seems like going this way ... I do am glad my birthdayparty was fun, good and friend'ly ..... Just wanted to share this all with ya ... Sorry if Im getting boring ...

Anyone has a veryyyyy good advice of handling this situation ??

Have you ever tried asking them about it, how they feel about things?

I have done it before but I don't know if it's always my turn to do it ... I mean, itsn't it sad that they don't even realise it theirselves??? After all those years of friendship and some downs before Im getting a bit sick of always ME making the effort???
I guess we are just growing apart (its not that we don't like eachother anymore or so !!!) I guess it's the growing apart-thing .. Only it seems like its only me who is sad about it ... At least thats the feeling they give me

I know how you're feelin'...kinda goin' though the same thing...me and a friend fell out over somethin' which, i now admit, was fairly trivial, but to me its just seemed like a gradual build up of things and that one event just pushed it too far....we've not spoken for nearly two months, and most of my other friends seem to have taken her side...cause i'm workin' through the summer and they're not, so they can spend all their time together...

we've known eachother four years..and i think we are beginnin' to grown apart...people change....and i get that...but it just seems that if she's not willin' to make the effort...why should i?? i know that's not really the right attitiude to take...but recently i feel that our friendships been a bit one sided...i've always listened to her problems...been there for her...but not really the other way round....

thing is i don't really know what i want....cause in these past two months i haven't really missed her...so i mean, what does that say about our friendship......???

Do you think that they may be feeling the same way? but they're just waiting for another to bring it up? I agree that you should talk to them about it if you're feeling that way - That way it's off your chest and out in the open, and everything can hopefully be resolved in one way or another. I hope the best to you, and hope everything works out in the end.

Thanx for the caring and advice already
I understand what you both are saying. Feel sorry for you Anna that the friendship isn't what it should be anymore ... You could be right about the not-missing part.
With me , its different ... My friends and I had such great years already. We went out together every weekend, make fun, going on holidays, do special things, talked for hours, ........ We connected as a group ... Now it seems the group-connection is gone ... And I have the feeling Im the only one who misses that ... I think when you have good friends you should 'tresor' it (or however you write it) ... Not everyone has the luck to have good friends so when you have ... You should do your very best ... At least, thats my opinion. In friendship its always very important to make the friendship at both sides !!!! For me it seems to get the way like it was with you Anna... You always care and ask how they are doing or so but the other way around??? Thats someting else !!!!! I miss that ... We used to do that and now it seems like its fading away ...
About what Moosiefate said ... You are also right ... I should talk to them, I should get it off my chest ... But I don't do it (at least not uptill now !) ... We did had the downs before and I was always the one trying to fix whatever happened ... It always seemed to work ... But for a while ... I don't know if its AGAIN my job to do it ... If they don't notice it that we are growing apart ... It might say something about what they feel for the friendship as well ... I know one of the reasons is that we are going to seperate schools now, made new friends there or got boyfriend/girlfriend ... Thats probably a reason. But it doesnt make that much difference for me ... I also made new friends at new school but I don't go out with them or so (live pretty far away), I don't have a boyfriend so not such a new life as the other years and some of friends do so makes me feel lonely and alone but they don't notice it cause they do still have fun with 'new' friends and so on ......