Trouble with Men

I honestly don't think it's a matter of time. I've met people who have been friends first or taken it easy and still split up after some time (even years) and also people who almost fell for it at first sight and were "accused" of hurrying it and are still together and it doesn't look like they'll be stopping in the near future.

I often thought that, too. Another thing is that I obviously always chose women where there's no chance to "get" them.
As Dawn said, I also need a deep friendship as a basis and that usually happens amongst women that are not only friends with me but with other guys in my cliques.

stop looking.

(erm, trust me?)

You guys broght up some interesting points. The whole argument about clubs..... I know people say don't look for men/women there especially if you are loking for someone with substance. The way I see it is yes there are some idiots that go to clubs or bars often but you can say that about any place. The only way it is seperated from other places is that sometimes alcohol brings out the a** in people. However, there are perfictly good people that go too...I guess it's being in the right place at the right time.

Panama, yea, I know I've heard people say that when you stop looking that's when you meet someone. But there's also the whole argument, "Seek and you shall find." I guess there's no easy answer to this one. Life's a gamble and relationships is Russian Roulette!

....with a lot of them ending up with a bullet to the head.

just chill and you'll find someone.

I love it, bullet to the head

Dawn

I have only one problem with guys: if they are any good they are married with children.

Nat

The dating scene is really tough....especially if you're looking for that soulmate/perfect someone, and lets be honest, who isn't? I thought I'd found her not so long ago...only problem was that I live in england and she lives in New York. We were writing to each other for a few years before we met and I almost sent myself bankrupt flying over to see her a bunch of times...in fact, I was over there last month and I barely got the chance to see her because of her work schedule....so I ended up spending best part of two weeks alone in barrooms. We had a fight over the phone and I haven't heard a thing from her since I got back. For a while I thought that it could somehow work out, but now (painful as it is to admit) I think its time to move on....but I'm a pathetic romantic and a picky S.O.A.B, so meeting someone is very diffucult....I guess in response to the original post, the simple moral of the story is, 'You're not the only one!'

You might think that you have found the right woman but it can go all wrong and then you are stuck!

some of us just need a bit more practice


I completely hear ya onewildnight. Though, observing some of my friends I think the problem is that many of us keep looking at the wrong people. Ie. I am a sucker for the needy type - the bad boys, the lost souls - but then when I am in a relationship with a type like that, I feel smothered and often cannot take the stuff that 'bad boys' bring on. So, I know I am hopeless in picking the right guy as all the 'good guys' seem endlessly boring to me

As far as a great catch goes. I've seen way too many guys (and girls for that matter) that THINK they are a great catch, but in reality they really aren't. Looks don't mean shit after he turns out to be the most shallow, ignorant and controlling jerk around.

For myself, I'd never consider myself a great catch - in fact - I might tell a guy to stay the hell away as I am sooooo not what they need. Works sometimes, but most men don't believe me which inevitably causes drama at some point.