We're on the paper

I never thought this would happen !

During our recent difficult weeks in my family, i did my best to protect the kids from everything, i told about the situation only to people i had to because they were with the kids ... teachers, friends etc ... only a few i knew would talk without really knowing what was happening, these ones i thought let them talk ... They thought we were separated with my husband and that's all .... we're not hte first after all .... !

But now the story is known by everyone because there was an article in the newspaper. Why ? Is it because someone just did his job, took the names and stories at the court and print his article, is this allowed ?
or is it more than that ? i haven't seen the article myself yet.
But people like this sort of thing, kids are talking too, i can't protect mine anymore. Don't know what to do.
Someone at school shouted it on the car park in front of everyone .......... Rachel was with me. I don't know who i can trust or not, who are the friends ? These persons are so bored, we give them something to talk about, better than they never had in ages. They don't care if my kids are hurt by this.

I need to find this article, and if something in it is not allowed, the lawyer will do her job ... but it won't change the fact now, we can't live here anymore.
All our efforts to re create our family are ruined. I'm starting to feel bad again, can't do all i have to do, too stressed etc .... it's horrible.
I'd like to shout at them all to better look in their family or their neighbours, stories like ours are unfortunely everywhere but because they are not in the paper it's not allowed to talk about it in public ! but i can't ! i musn't lose my temper, i must show them we're stronger than that, and they will forget it hopefully and respect us because we went through all this. But it's not me, i'd like to fight, to show them they can't hurt my kids. I can't.
I heard about he article first from someone who never liked me, she is the one who read the newspaper and who talked about the article to each person she could. For someone who don't care of me or my family ..... i think she is really interested.
I told James, just do like Billy Crawford (his hero ) ignore the rumor, he laughed but i hope he will be spared. And Rachel when this b*itch tells to everyone about me and my situation, she is around with the person i leave her when i'm at work. This person tells me i can trust her, she will protect my daughter as much as she can. But the other day she was talking with the b*tch, they were laughing together .... what can i do ? I can't stop working because i don't know where to leave my daughter ....

Any idea ? please .......... what would you do in this situation ?
And what about what the paper did ? is there something i can do ?

Jess, this is terrible. What did they actually write?? Is it fact or just what they heard, if it is what they heard maybe you can sue???

In any case it is not nice, especially for the kids.

Keep us posted.

its not nice... my thoughts are with you and if theres anything that we can do then let us know!

Gossip and nastiness are everywhere Jess. What has already happened is bad enough, surely you don't need people talking behind your back. There are always people who enjoy other peoples misfortunes (unfortunately) but I don't think that should be a deciding factor in leaving your home. An article in a newspaper cannot hurt you compared to what has already happened. Your children are young enough that if you explain to them simply (with not too much detail) and honestly what is going on, they probably won't get too upset about it. As their Mom, if you are outwardly not too bothered by the gossip, they won't be as affected by it either.
With that said, if it something that should not have been written about, your lawyer should make sure that it does not happen again.
It seems as if when things can't get any worse - they do . I hope you can get through this with your head held up proudly. Remember - you are not the one who did anything wrong in this case.

Kathleen

Thanks both of you !
Unfortunely actually there's nothing we can do, i can't even find the article !
I needed to talk about it, and who knows, maybe someone on here has already experienced a similar situation .... and can give me any ideas about how i can face this new situation, how i should react ? what is the best thing to do etc ...
I'm going to see this woman this afternoon to see if she can give me the paper .... worth a try .... That's what i need first, i need to know what they wrote, what people know.

This is awful Jess...I am sorry to hear this. Is it a local paper? I wonder why someone would do this...And, why you? This is odd really but I do hope you get a copy of this article and get to the bottom of this. I'd be really mad if this would happen to me...Pls let us know.

Thanks Kathleen and Vanesa, i'll try to find this article today.

I think Kathleen, your words are wisdom, and i know i should react like that, i'll try, it sounds so much better when i read how you tell me to face the situation. All i want is peace.
I explained my children, simply (i hope) - you're right they don't need the details .... But James would like to tell one or two words to some persons, he doesn't want to leave me alone going somewhere in the village .. i try to tell him each time he can't react like that, and i'm not in danger ... but he's not blind.
I don't want to go as down as i was recently, i'm not strong enought yet to face something like that.
I don't want to be sick again, i just want to keep my jobs and continue what we decided, it works actually, life is different at home, there is more communication and even with troubles : money, cars etc .... we are more like a team than like before ennemies. Kids are happy again. I thought they would never be the same as before, but they are ! So i don't want to see our family destroyed by people we don't even know !

And why me Vanesa ? ....... some said jealousy ! i don't know what i have people would be jealous of honestly. I own my house but it's a sacrifice of each day to keep it, my jovi car maybe ? same, it's hard to keep it. I work at three different places to keep all that, i'm far from beeing rich ..... so i don't know. And yes, it's a local paper .... Hope it won't affect too much my husband's situation at work ....

I'm so sorry for you jess! I hope everything turns out good!!
My toughts are with you !! Keep the faith!

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Why would a journalist write about marriage problems? Its not as if its something that doesnt happen everywhere everyday... very strange :/

I have a copy of the article !
it's horrible, they wrote everything in details and even more ! i think our lawyer can do something agaisnt them, well i hope ....

In fact i went to see a person i don't talk to from years because of things she said about me a long time ago etc .... you know very childish problems in fact, i ignored this person since years but people i thought who were my friends often told me she still saying things on me and apparently she was the one who showed this article to everyone.
We talked three hours together this afternoon, and you know what ? i trust her ! she proved me in fact people who act like friends tell things about me ..... difficulties in a little village. Complicated for nothing important at the beginning ..... bored house wifes ..... Well i trust her.
Now the thing is the article doesn't really name my husband, just his first name with the first letter of his name. but an english in our village and at the first page ..... you see how it's easy for people to know who is he. As they don't really give the name in the paper i don't know if we can sue them but for all the rest it's just disgusting, revolting ... don't know, we'll talk about it with the lawyer.
And you know Goose, people told me if it was a problem of infidelity it wouldn't be so interesting .......
Now the choice i made to give my couple and family a last chance, i'm judged by nearly a whole village for that, if it was because my husband spent a night with my neighbour it would be different .... unfair, but that's the reality.