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Originally Posted by letitrock
No matter what you want to do with him you have to stay professional, because it sounds like 5 minutes of pleasure will f*ck much more with your mind than your body regardless of whether you are fired or not.
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Very very true. Even if nobody ever found out, *I'd* still know. It's not a question of me getting fired (or him). I'd never get fired for sleeping with a staff, however, it would make the work situation so tricky that somebody would have to move on. He wouldn't be able to do any kind of work for me and I wouldn't be able to have any input on his reviews. It's just a bad situation and like Kathleen pointed out - there is always the perception of possible unfair treatment due to a relationship.
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It's too easy to say "f*ck him" or "wait and then f*ck him". If he touches you or gets too close and you genuinely don't think it's appropriate (despite the fact you like/want it) then you have to put your foot down and say that you think it's inappropriate behaviour;
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duh! I know it is inappropriate but I allowed it because I am attracted to him. I wouldn't ever get into a situation like that with someone I was not attracted to and who wouldn't spellbind me like he does. I am very aware that my actions contribute greatly to what is happening. Again, when it was purely physical it didn't bother me as much because I could avoid the closeness. ONce I felt emotionally attracted to him, I was unable to put distance between us.
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not easy and you've said you've not talked about "it", but either you have a huge crush that he isn't reciprocating other than being his normal self, or you both are thinking about "it". In which case if you politely ask him not to do something he should know exactly what you're talking about.
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Oh he knows exactly what is going on. We do find each other in situations where we suddenly snap out of it and actually say 'this is rather inappropriate' and we quickly move on. Or at least that is how it used to be. Now, he has started talking back on how it is 'ok' and how I worry too much and how he is a big boy.... etc.
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Originally Posted by Dawn
Maria writes
"His upbringing. His Dad is the CEO of big big client of ours. I refuse to know anything about it but I do know something vaguely about it cause he can't work on that client"
Do not sleep with the clients son, your job is not worth it that kind of risk if things went wrong , chances are they would fire you over him.....
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I am really not worried about getting fired for sleeping with anyone on a consentual basis. It's not my client but the firms client and his Dad is the CEO, not the owner or something.
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He sounds like a right tease...with all the touching/cupboard behavior, r u sure he is not playing you....
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I am not sure at all. Like I said, I know he is fully aware of the affect he has on women and I am sure he uses it to his advantage at times. He also must know I am attracted to him as I wouldn't put up with his antics otherwise. We wouldn't have the conversations we sometimes have and I wouldn't let him get so close.
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The way you are writing u r looking at this situation in a very romantic way...
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I am not sure what is so romantic about this situation. Like I said, I don't see a relationship for us in the future and I don't particularly enjoy 'needing' a man. Though it seems to be the affect he is having on me. I find it rather disturbing than romantic. Perhaps that is my perverted romance
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In another situation would you put up with another collegue breathing down your neck and getting in your way, touchy feely... allowing his charm or game to effect you is a choice you are making....
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heck no. Like I said, I've never had a work relationship and I never even thought it was possible for me. I very much know how to get out of inappropriate situations, it just so happens that I didn't mind with him
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as you are in control in a professional manner perhaps thats what excites him...
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quite possible.
09-21-2007, 10:15 PM
