Thank you for your answer, Spunky!

I do that. Always. When I first started I did believe my memory was so bad that I kept forgetting. Nowadays, I write everything down, even the most stupid things - word for word just to make sure I will not forget a single thing. And I ask lots of questions on how she wants things to be done. But when I follow her instructions and something goes wrong then no matter I know - and say very clearly - that I did exactly as I was told - it's my fault.

I'm not saying I don't make mistakes myself - I'm not perfect - and I wouldn't mind those being enumerated. It's just when it's clearly her fault that gets on my nerves. Her fault or someone else's. Or nobody's, which is a concept she doesn't understand. It always has to be someone at fault. Hence, I'm the perfect candidate most of the time.

Can't. She's the absolute boss. It's a small company and there's no one above her.

Might be. But I'm not alone there. She blames everyone. Only other people have less contact with her, so her list of faults is only temporary. I see her every day for hours and I have to put up with that. For other people it's a short telephone conversation, for me it's a long work day.

I will try to put to good use what you mentioned, but it's not easy - not because I'm not willing to try, though I'm very shy and sometimes will not say the things I should - but because whenever I've gathered up the courage to point something out to her - it has simply bounced off her back onto me.

And I feel I must say she does have her good points too. It's only the constant fault-finding and blaming that makes me mad. And there are whole days of it, like yesterday, when it never seems to stop when I just can't stand it anymore.