Would you marry someone who didn't have a job?

Walkerboy · #11 04-01-2014, 01:32 PM

Depends on circumstances I guess.
My wife hasn't worked since our second child was born 8 yrs ago.
There's simply no need for her to do so....
I earn enough to support the family and we have spare money at the end of every month. Am I bothered by this??? Nope....

Also, if she was out working as well as me then nothing would get done at home - washing, cleaning, cooking, not to mention the cost of child care outside of school hours.

Milotic · #12 04-25-2014, 06:36 PM

My girlfriend is jobless (she's 21) and I don't mind. I love her, and if she and I would get married a few years later, it wouldn't matter whether she has a job or not. I love her, that's all that matters. <3

Supersonic · #13 04-25-2014, 07:28 PM

Aloha !

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Originally Posted by Milotic

My girlfriend is jobless (she's 21) and I don't mind. I love her, and if she and I would get married a few years later, it wouldn't matter whether she has a job or not. I love her, that's all that matters. <3

Sure it is, buddy. Let's see what it's like once you've been working for a few years and haven't been able to spend any money on things for yourself because you've "had" to spend it all on your beloved girlfriend. The love you've got for her will make room for the frustration she creates as your own comfortable life has come to an end.

Many many years ago I had a girlfriend who refused to work in the weekends she was off from school, yet still thought I was the one who was supposed to work for our days out as "I clearly could afford it". Mind you, I was in school as well, yet worked 2 to 3 days a week at the same time. Once I told her I kind of expected her to bring in some money her attitude towards this quickly changed, as the money she worked for "was her money".

Yeah...

I still don't mind working and paying for things when a significant other doesn't have or can't get a job, and I love buying a girl gifts. But I do expect something in return at the same time (cleaning or cooking etc.). This might sound disrespectful towards women, but I feel it's disrespectful towards men to expect them to pay for your holidays and nights out when you spend your days watching TV while I'm at work. That's just not what society is supposed to be like, it should be going both ways.

Salaam Aleikum,
Sebastiaan

Milotic · #14 04-25-2014, 07:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Supersonic

Aloha !

Sure it is, buddy. Let's see what it's like once you've been working for a few years and haven't been able to spend any money on things for yourself because you've "had" to spend it all on your beloved girlfriend. The love you've got for her will make room for the frustration she creates as your own comfortable life has come to an end.

Many many years ago I had a girlfriend who refused to work in the weekends she was off from school, yet still thought I was the one who was supposed to work for our days out as "I clearly could afford it". Mind you, I was in school as well, yet worked 2 to 3 days a week at the same time. Once I told her I kind of expected her to bring in some money her attitude towards this quickly changed, as the money she worked for "was her money".

Yeah...

I still don't mind working and paying for things when a significant other doesn't have or can't get a job, and I love buying a girl gifts. But I do expect something in return at the same time (cleaning or cooking etc.). This might sound disrespectful towards women, but I feel it's disrespectful towards men to expect them to pay for your holidays and nights out when you spend your days watching TV while I'm at work. That's just not what society is supposed to be like, it should be going both ways.

Salaam Aleikum,
Sebastiaan

Well, of course she'd have to do most of the chores in the house if she and I live together and I'd have a job that pays well enough for both of us. It wouldn't be fair if she did nothing while I'd have a job and have to do all the work. But I know she's not like that, so that's something I don't really worry about. But if she'd have a job and I'd be jobless, of course I'd at least do most of the chores in the house. Of course things have to be divided fair.

I don't think expecting a girl to do chores if she has no job while you do have one is disrespectful. It's perfectly fair to expect that. If one person in a relationship has a job and the other one hasn't, of course the jobless one should do most chores at home. And if both people have a job that takes about an equal amount of time per week, the chores should be divided between the two.

Sorry if you misunderstood my point. I just said I love her, whether she would have a job or not, I didn't say anything about chores in the house. Of course those should be divided in a way that makes things fair for both people in a relationship.

Would you marry someone who didn't have a job?

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