Jealousy.
 

A friend of mine got onto a major fight with his girlfriend because she was talking about how hot Hayden crhistensen looked playing Anakin in Star Wars, so the dude got major jealous, I'm talking about face red and p!ssed off because he felt she would cheat on him with any dude she saw that even resembled Hayden. :roll:
Now call me crazy but isn't that crossing the line?
I've never been the jealous type of guy I've often goten in trouble in my relationships because I am not jealous enough.
A girlfriend I had last year asked me often if she interested me at all because I had no sign of being jealous when she went out without me or was talkin to guys at UNI, I just never felt the need for it, I trusted her enough, shouldn't she have been happy because of that? I had to break up with my last girlfriend because she was to jealous and paranoid that I was horning around all the time, which as much as I'd like to say it was, wasn't true.

So is jealousy important in relationships, and how much is too much.
This is the primary topic where I have the hardest time understanding women in. They want it, but they don't.
And should I act jealous even if I don't feel jealous, so she'll feel like I want to own her? (which is what jealousy means to me.

It's a bit stupid to be jealous over a celebrity.

I think that's where trust becomes involved. You have to know that your guy (or girl) loves you enough not to have a fling with someone based on something as shallow as looks. If you've got that, then you can listen to your significant other say someone else is hot without thinking they're going to leave you.

Becky

I don't think I am overly jealous, but I do have to fight the urge at times. On the other hand, the times I get jealous are times I probably should be ....

I've had extremely jealous boyfriends and believe me, it ain't good. You REALLY don't want a jelous boyfriend/girlfriend. They are a pain in the butt and, honestly, simply psychotic.

There are many women I know that aren't even allowed to go out by themselves because their husbands won't let them.... it's insane.

One of the best things I can say about my ex is that he was not jealous in any way (almost to an extreme - I could kiss a guy and all he'd say is 'was that necessary?' lol)

As for your question, no, I don't think you should act jealous - just be sure you show interest and give compliments so she knows you really like her. All jealousy is is low self-esteem ... nothing to desire.

I know women like that and they're miserable. No one wants to feel like a possession.

Becky

Why is that? One of those women cannot believe that my ex would 'let me' go out as much as I wanted without a curfew. I told her, I never asked - I did let him know, though. The same woman suggested that it's a cultural difference as all the women she knows that are married can't go out :?

What culture is she from?

I can't imagine having to ask permission to do something I want to do or expecting my partner to ask permission from me. Obviously communciation and letting the other know your plans is nice. But permission isn't necessary.

However, I do know a lot of women who say, "My husband won't let me do that," and "You'll understand when you're married." I just don't know that marriage will ever change my personality that much.

Perhaps that's why I'm still single. :lol:

Becky

she is American. :? She says because I am European I may have different expectations. This doesn't explain why my ex husband has never done anything but encouraged me to go out with my own friends -- as he did with his. Plus, his sisters wouldn't exactly ask their husbands either :)

same here - the mere thought of it is beyond comprehension. I'll ask if the timing is alright, just in case he's got plans as well, but other than that...

pfffff .... that's silly.

I wonder if some women just make it up - so they feel more 'wanted' :?

the double edged sword that is known as the female psyche'

let her have her freedom and don't freak out = not interested in her

tell her you don't want to hear about david beckhams arse or not like guys flirting with her (and bear in mind most guys will have a go wether someone has a boyfriend or not) = being jealous.


it's best to tread the line. I don't really give a shit who anyone I'm with thinks is hot off the telly and if they're talking to guys I'm not going to tell them to get but a mates girlfriend is pretty much just a stupid wee girl when it comes to stuff like this and will literally have guys putting there hands all over her in nightclubs. That's out of order and the worst is she doesn't even realise it.

I get quite jealous, but only about 'real' people ... getting jealous over celebrities is a bit pointless

Jealousy is the worst thing ever. I couldn't stand someone controlling me or my moves. If they love and trust me they'll know I won't hurt them. Same for them - if I love and trust someone - why should I be jealous?

Being jelous implies a major lack of trust. And especially if it all springs from a celebrity :?