Commitmen or goofing around?
 

What do you think is the age of commit with somebody?
I'm 18 years old and I've been goofing around for 2 years now and haven't had any long term realationship... The longest have lasted like a month and other ones about weekend...
Any advices, not afraid of any venereal diseases or anything but this could be harful while thinking the future, or what do you think.
Is there some line of trading partner once a week?
Any experiences? Can it make damage...when it is really time to commit?

The right age to commit to somebody is at whatever age you meet that person that you know is absolutely right for you and you absolutely right for them. It doesn't matter if you're 16 or 60. When it's right, it's right.

But is hard 'cause when you are as young as me, you have a little crush on every girl you are with... It is enough that she is a good looking but that is not a good ground enough to build a real relationship. I have a few friends who have got engaged but have divorced before even getting married... So I'm little terrified...?

Then don't go looking for a relationship. If you're worried about not forming a strong enough relationship with someone just make more friends, and then in future more might develop, and if it does then you have that bond, that level of trust from being friends first.

Exactly.

Enjoy your youth.

I don't understand why someone would want to get married at your age - most people haven't figured out who they are at that age, let alone be able to figure out someone else and build a relationship.

I am not advocating taking friendships/relationships lightly and jump from person to person cause that is certainly NOT how you grow.

Be with who you want to ... don't slut around, but enjoy being single and when someone comes along you might want to hang around for a bit longer and the other person feels the same way, then do it.

Imo, one cannot learn to be in a relationship without ever being in one. At the same time, some people will commit too early and later regret not having been ''out'' a bit more.

One thing I do want to say about the slutting around :D meaning never having a meaningful relationship, but having a new girl/boy every month .... there are people like that my age that have never been in a long lasting relationship and I steer WAY clear of those guys. Not being able to sustain any relationship is much more a sign of trouble than previously failed relationships. IMO.

Anyway, not sure what you are worried about though....

As far as what age is right ---- well, that depends on when the right person comes along?!? I started my first long term relationship when I was 15 (lasted almost 3 years which is forever at that age) and then had no really long term relationship until I was 22 or so.... It's when you are ready and when that person comes along. Anytime could be the right time.

I thank you:)

my 2 cents.

enjoy not being tied down while you have the opportunity.

i almost proposed when i was your age because i was so certain this girl was the one. we went out for nearly 3 years but now i barely speak to her and im lucky if i bump into her a few times a year.

although i did kind of the opposite of you and had along term relationship at that age, i have had a few years since to slut around and both have their merits and negative aspects.

for what it's worth. when you intentionally look for someone it usually is detrimental in my opinion.

pour example'

if you go out clubbign determined to pull and you don't. you'll think man i didnt pull and i really wanted to. whereas if you#re not too bothered you wont feel bummed if you dont and if you do pull it'll be a nmice little bonus.

same with looking for a girlfriend, if you're really desperate to find someone, you might "fall" for anyone.

i'd just chill and let things take their course until you find someone you like and can see something developing with. i broke up with a girl i'd been seeing just before i went busking in europe and when i was away i had so much fun i decided i was becoming a nihilist and didn't want a girlfriend for a long time but as fate woul dhave it, less than a month later i met a girl in a club and we've totally hit it off so you never really know.

i think the pertaining fact is that you can never tell whats going to happen or who you're going to meet so you might as well let things take their course.

you're still young. there's no need to rush into anything.

You don't commit just to commit, you commit because you've found someone who you legitimately want to be your only one.